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    brkfstatiffs Posts: 263, Reputation: 21
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    Dec 29, 2008, 11:52 PM
    When do guys call? Horrible at this !
    I can always give advice well, just not apply it to myself haha.

    So long story short, I met this awesome guy Friday night at a mutual friends birthday, we hit it off pretty well and by the end of the night were bonding, flirting, kissing, getting to know each other. I'd like to think it was a lot more than a cocktail induced situation - which I'm pretty sure it was on both ends. We pretty much had a really good night, and he tells me he thinks we have a connection etc I end up crashing at his hotel suite with our other friends (we didn't hook up but had a good night), and I woke up just wanting to go back to my apartment and get in my own bed kind of feeling so the goodbye was sort of akward and I feel like I gave him the impression that the night before just kind of happened and it was what it was... when really the whole next day I was so mad at myself for not saying a better goodbye because I really wanted to see him again and let him know it was more than just a great night/semi hookup thing!

    So I texted him the next day just saying hey how's it going, had a good time last night and the texts went back and forth a few times but he never said I'll call you etc. (Not to mention I totally forgot Football was on when I texted him this so I bet he was disracted). I felt like I wanted to send him a little text because the goodbye was akward.

    So now I'm confused. Do you think he will call me? I really think in my gut we both felt this chemistry but I really feel like I want to see him again. I guess my question is, how can you tell if he's going to call?

    Should I call him in a week just to say hi if he doesn't? I know this sounds totally OCD, but it's just rare these days I meet a guy who I have that instant kind of comfort and click with right off the bat - and he was that, and he said I wast that to him as well.

    Thanks
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    Dec 29, 2008, 11:54 PM

    Give it a day or so. If he doesn't, you may have to call. Being a guy, I can honestly say from my perspective: I hate using the phone. I hate talking over the phone. I'd much rather be hanging out and talking.

    I don't know about other guys as far as that goes, but, some guys also like to wait till the girl calls, so that they know that the girl is really interested. Some need the call to show that. Maybe he doesn't, you can give it time, and if he doesn't call, just call him.
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    Dec 30, 2008, 06:45 AM

    Don't contact him again. You already showed your interest by your post party texts. He knows you are open to additional contact. If you try to push the matter most likely he will think you are clingy or pushy and will be put off by it.

    So basically just relax and let him make the next move. Its his turn to go. If he doesn't contact you, since he is a friend of a friend, it is likely you will run into him again in the next month or two.
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    Dec 30, 2008, 12:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by stevetcg View Post
    Don't contact him again. You already showed your interest by your post party texts. He knows you are open to additional contact. If you try to push the matter most likely he will think you are clingy or pushy and will be put off by it.

    So basically just relax and let him make the next move. Its his turn to go. If he doesn't contact you, since he is a friend of a friend, it is likely you will run into him again in the next month or two.
    Thanks I needed to hear that. And honestly, it wouldn't be my style to text the day after I would just let it be, but because the whole morning goodbye thing was a little half asleep and akward I felt like I should.

    I guess I will wait. He lives an hour and half north of me, so if I don't hear from him when I am up in his city in a couple weekends visiting a good friends I may just casually reach out. No harm in that.
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    Dec 30, 2008, 01:30 PM

    There's no way to tell if he's going to call. You just got to wait or call him yourself.

    So you real question is do you wait or do you call him?. If you call him you can end your agony instantly if you don't you'll just suffer until he feels like calling you. Which sounds better?

    CALL HIM
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    Dec 31, 2008, 09:33 PM

    Don't give it a second thought just get on with your life and have fun. If you're meant to be together you will be.

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