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michael alamo · Sep 25, 2009, 12:59 PM

I have an ex girlfriend whom I broke up with and didn't speak too for a year and a half. I found out that she got married a year after we broke up. We starting talking again which showed me that I made a mistake by breaking up with her and now I love her more then ever. This is true love for sure! I really believe that she is not in love with her husband and still in love with me because of her voice patterns when she talks about the two of us. I don't believe in divorce but I would give anything for a second chance. Should I tell her how I feel or just wait to see how the marriage goes?

Justwantfair · Sep 25, 2009, 01:02 PM

You have no right to tell her how you feel and you have no right to be in her life right now knowing how you feel.

You need to not contact her again.

She is married now and the minute you found that out, you should have known she was off limits.

We all make mistakes in our relationships but now you can correct your mistake by staying out of her life.

redhed35 · Sep 25, 2009, 01:06 PM

What do you say to the woman you love if she is married?

Nothing.

You lost her,she is not yours.

If you believe you truly do love her,then stay away,don't complicate her life.

Let her go,and work on your own life now.

She has made her choice.

jmjoseph · Sep 25, 2009, 01:11 PM

Originally Posted by michael alamo

I have an ex girlfriend whom I broke up with and didnt speak too for a year and a half. I found out that she got married a year after we broke up. We starting talking again which showed me that I made a mistake by breaking up with her and now i love her more then ever. This is true love for sure! I really believe that she is not in love with her husband and still in love with me because of her voice patterns when she talks about the two of us. I dont believe in divorce but I would give anything for a second chance. Should I tell her how i feel or just wait to see how the marriage goes?

"What do you say to the woman you love if she is married?" is the name of this post. Well, besides how are you? And things like that, nothing. If the "marriage isn't working" as you say, that's not really your concern. You had your chance with this girl, and it's gone. You say YOU broke up with HER, so...

She is married now, and is completely off limits. Anything beyond small talk is inappropriate. Don't share your epiphany, or feelings, it might compromise her marriage.

If YOU were married to her, how would YOU feel if HE came up to her with this?

I'm sorry for being so blunt, and I know this is not what you wanted to hear, but I think you know it's not right.

If she was just DATING someone, maybe you could wait and hope, but it's simply too late now.

Think back as to why you broke up with her in the first place.

And try to shake this girl out of your head.

The world is full of girls who aren't married. Go find one.

Good luck to you.

talaniman · Sep 25, 2009, 01:49 PM

Oh, please, leave her alone to have a happy life and say nothing but hi, and bye when you see her.

Are you crazy? No one here will condone such bad behavior as your suggesting.

Walk away like a real man should.

artlady · Sep 25, 2009, 01:57 PM

You should say nothing and accept this as a learning experience that it is.
In the future be sure of your feelings before you take an action you will regret.
She and you have no business talking to one another.You are opening a can of worms,cut all contact and encourage her to honor herself and her marriage vows.
That is the moral thing to do.

Cat1864 · Sep 25, 2009, 02:08 PM

How much does the fact that she isn't available make her even more attractive to you now? The change in her voice is probably memories which is all there should be between you.

Like everyone else, I will stand by the in a relationship=off limits.

If you want to discuss ways to get over her and move on, please, talk to us.

We will do everything we can to support you getting your emotional life straightened back out.

artlady · Sep 25, 2009, 02:15 PM

Originally Posted by Cat1864

How much does the fact that she isn't available make her even more attractive to you now? The change in her voice is probably memories which is all there should be between you.

Like everyone else, I will stand by the in a relationship=off limits.

If you want to discuss ways to get over her and move on, please, talk to us.

We will do everything we can to support you getting your emotional life straightened back out.

Can't rep you Cat but I think perhaps there is some of that I want what I can't have type of thing going on.
I have seen it played out so many times.
Thrill of the chase or a sense of ownership and even an ego thing.

Clough · Sep 25, 2009, 02:46 PM

Hi, michael alamo!

She is married and has thus made a commitment. What rationale do you have to continue on with someone who's in a committed relationship, please?

Thanks!

MrTom · Nov 3, 2010, 05:09 PM

AHHH come on... My wife cheated on me with another man however I am not angry with her, I forgive her... true love never dies IF and it's a big IF you really believe you are in love... go for it... who are these people to stop you? Who is anyone to stop you? If she feels the same then she will admit it but at least you damn well tried and will never wonder "what if" you have one life kid don't let ANYONE tell you what you can... cant... shouldn't do... you want something.. you get it PERIOD.

People want to answer and tell me how terrible I am go for it... I had it done to me so whatever... just remember and think yourselves you have one life why get to the end and think "what if?"