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momentum · May 20, 2007, 07:03 AM

I am a 22 year old single, virgin guy. I have been in fairly long term relationships which have broken down largely because I have not been able to handle the fact that the girl I was with in each case was not a virgin.
I am not religious, and appreciate that to a lot of people virginity is not a great issue, but it is really, really important to me to share my first time with another virgin. This is not something I can or want to change. To me it would mean that we had both saved ourselves for the right person.
My problem is finding a partner who is also a virgin. I am a sensitive, outgoing person who loves meeting new people. However, I don't openly admit to being a virgin and wouldn't really expect people I meet to do so either, at least in dating or singles adverts.
I don't want to be single any more!! Any advice would be really appreciated. Cheers.

shygrneyzs · May 20, 2007, 07:21 AM

I commend you on sticking with your virtues. There are women out there who have the same values. Granted, it does not seem like that. But not everyone follows the crowd.

You say you are not religious but do you attend a Church? Sometimes there are singles groups in Church. I have seen online dating services for Christian singles, you might find someone there who holds to the same standard of chastity.

Again, I give you a tremendous amount of credit for living an abstinent life. There is a great deal of pressure, from many sides, to forego your beliefs. Wishing you the very best in finding a mate who shares your strong value system.

momentum · May 20, 2007, 03:32 PM

Thanks shygrneyzs! I don't attend a church, but I do reckon that online dating services are well worth a try.
It's sad to say, but I feel that there is an undeniable stigma attached to virginity and, that being the case, the anonymity of online dating may well be the last refuge for those of us determined to wait for our perfect match. Until then, think un-sexy thoughts... think un-sexy thoughts..!

Fr_Chuck · May 20, 2007, 04:26 PM

You know it is all a matter of YOUR beliefs, you may find someone who made a mistake early in their life once and is everything you ever wanted, but you will not get to know them for that reason, and of course as the old joke goes , ( the girl says as they start to have sex, of course I am a virgin why do ALL of your guys always ask that)

But the connection, the personality, the bond of friendship is what you look for in a partner, which is so much more important,
That one factor should be much lower on your list or you may well find what you want, but it is not gong to be a lasting relastionship.