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    kewlcar121 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 24, 2009, 01:26 PM
    Two boys . But 1 girl
    OK I've been dating this boy mike for almost 5 months since 11/07/08 and we just broke up 3/20/09 </3 and we have been fighting a lot lately that's why we broke up . He lives far from me so I only see him on the weakeneds . And twords the last 2 weaks we were dating since we fought so much I started liking someone else... named aidan . And I really really like him! But I don't want to be back with mike and screw him over . Even though I still have strong feelings for mike and I really miss him but I still have strong feelings for aidan . And mike still loves me to pieces . But aidan really really likes me too . And I'm stuck and I don't know what to do ! I need help.. please ! :(
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    Mar 24, 2009, 01:29 PM

    Focus on your schoolwork, as when you get older and neither of these two boys are in your future, you will need to know how to spell words such as week and weekends correctly.
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    Mar 24, 2009, 01:43 PM

    Wow, like Scott said, slow down.

    First off, Aidan is obviously a rebound. You are liking Mike less and less, which is why this new guy caught your attention.

    I'm assuming that you don't want to be a player and date two guys at once. You seem kind of young, but let's say you're an adult, then you should pick neither.

    First of all, you just broke up, so you should be recovering from that breakup. You should be single. Your heart is split and it's not fair to either guy. Wait until you recover and by that time, things will be much clearer in your mind.
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    Mar 24, 2009, 01:50 PM

    If you don't want to be dating Mike exclusively, let him know. Maybe suggest the two of you use this time to see other people as well. Do not start seeing Aidan behind Mike's back. There is nothing wrong with seeing more than one person as long as everyone is aware of it. Of course, you do have to realize it will mean they can date others as well and there is the possibility they will only go out with you if they are the only ones you are seeing.
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    Mar 24, 2009, 02:05 PM

    Let both of them chase you and let no one have you for now... the one who stops chasing first is the one you don't want to be with.
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    Mar 24, 2009, 03:02 PM

    No I'm not going behind anyone's back they both care for me . Nike knows I like aidan . Mikes not moving down wherei live until June . But he said he will probably lose his feelings for me by then . He said I can't wait 3 months without losing the feelings I have for you... these past few days have been rough and aidans been here for me a lot . Me and mike are great when were together but since its long distance I always tell him were more apart then we are together.. but I miss him.. ad don't want to screw aidan over but I feel things will get worse with me and mike if we goo back together iim so clueless ! And hurt </3
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    Mar 24, 2009, 03:08 PM

    I commend Mike for his honesty. For some people, being apart for 3 months is too long and he must realize his feelings for the relationship are not strong enough to wait that long. Maybe keep in touch with Mike, you never know what the future may hold, but let him know that given the present circumstances, it might be best to date others for now. When he is living near by, things may change, or they may not. You may both find other people are better suited for each of you.

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