We've been dating for two years and have always had a few problems. He's a really busy person and is always gone. We're only 16 so I see him at lunch sometimes in school but he is constantly going away for basketball. (His schedule has always been an issue between us) and he's not really one to compromise. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to hold him back, but I feel like his time management is lacking. Last week, we were going to go on a date alone finally since he got his license, but he invited his brother to the movies with us. And then my boyfriend showed up to the movie in his pajama bottoms like it wasn't a big deal to be on a date with me. And I know we see things differently, but I mean come on? Who would show up on a date in pj's? Let alone invite their younger brother. I asked him about the pg.'s and he said "I didn't think that after two years I still had to impress you." and that crushed me.

I am starting to question if I really want to date him anymore. He is one of those really smart people with absolutely no common sense, and he only understands his own feelings. He assumes that if something he does doesn't bother him, then it wouldn't bother someone else. I try to talk to him about it nicely but he always takes it as a personal attack. We've been fighting a lot over the stupidest things and somehow everything is my fault these days. If you asked him about all this, he would just say I was over reacting and that none of this is true. It's because he doesn't see it like I do. I try to explain but he won't hear it. I really don't know what to do anymore.

I have tried to sit him down and have many serious talks with him but his ability to listen and understand is terrible. The worst part is I'm so used to having him around that I don't really know if I want to break up, or if I don't want to break up. And If I didn't want to break up, I don't know if it would be because I actually love him, or if I just don't want to be single. I am confused about us and myself right now. Any advice? I know it was long.

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Well you say you don't see him that much and it seems you guys are of two different minds about things. He's young. How old are you? A break up sounds like the best for both of you.

Sounds like that was a jerk thing for him to say, but you're 16 and boys will be immature at 16.

Might be a good idea to look for someone a little older, maybe 17 or 18 as long as you're doing lawful things, no illegal stuff... you sound a bit more mature then him at your age and that's normal.

So me and my boyfriend broke up just over a week ago. We had been dating for a year and a half and he decided to end it because we weren't getting along very well anymore. But I feel like we only hit a rough spot. The rest of the time we were very happy together. I miss him and his family. We have been texting a lot since we broke up but we just talk about our day and what's going on, just like before we broke up. I really want to get back together with him as soon as I can. However, we are in spring break right now and I wouldn't be able to talk to him in person until we got back to school. Would it be OK to text him about getting back together?we are both sixteen, and for both of us, this was our first relationship. He didn't want to break up with me, he was crying as we broke up.

He ended it. He is the one to decide he wants to resume the relationship.

Yes, of course you can ask him if it's possible to get back together again, but I would be prepared for him to say "no." Sometimes you love people but simply can't make a relationship "work."

He ended it, if he wants to go there again, he will bring it up. There were obviously things he saw wrong in the relationship. It might be a good thing to stop talking to each other so much so you both can move on. Stay free for some time. 16 is awful young to be tied down to one person especially if you have been tied down since 14 or 15. You two need some room to grow.

So my boyfriend and I broke up a couple weeks ago. And he broke up with me but after a few days, he started texting me like all the time, and we were always talking (note that I never texted him first) and I started to think that maybe he wanted to get back together. He was just being really nice to me. So we talked about it and he told me than he just wanted to stay single for a while. And you know, I was kind of disappointing because I thought he wanted me back. So then I told him I needed some space from him for a while (so that I could move on and all that stuff) but a few days after this, he started talking to me again like we never broke up in the first place, and he talks about hanging out and all that stuff. So know I really confused. I don't know what's going on really.

Why don't you ask him why he is doing this. If he says he's just being friendly, tell him to stop.

Fully agree with Homegirl, tell him to leave you alone.