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    flyingeye57 Posts: 10, Reputation: 2
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    Feb 20, 2009, 08:13 PM
    Things are changing, I feel annoyed. I feel uncapable of feeling any kind of emotion.
    I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and I liked him for another 7 months before we started dating. Everything has been splendid besides a few ups and downs we have worked through together. In the past month though, I noticed my feelings for him were not as strong, and this both scared and upset me. I cared about him very much and I did not want to hurt him. I decided it was something we could work through because I loved him and wanted to be with him. I have even discussed the matter with him, and we came to the conclusion that I had been seeing him too much. We tried to see each other less, but didn't really go through with it. I thought the feelings went away so we went back to seeing each other regularly. Unfortunately the feeling came back again and I told him once again. This time too I felt really sad and when others I'd ask advice from would say maybe we needed to break up I automatically started crying. Really recently though, that has not been the case. I think maybe we are done and that evokes no reaction in me. I think I am emotionally exhausted, yet I'm afraid I might be over him. I don't know how to tell. He always misses me but I don't miss him, and today he told me something really cute and it annoyed me! I was really surprised to my reaction, but I really felt annoyed. I don't know what this all means. Before I'd feel horrible about all this, and although I still do I can't really feel anything. I think I have lost my objectivity on the matter and have been over thinking it. I'm very stressed too recently so maybe it's spilling over onto my emotions for him. I'm even tired of kissing him. But that's cause he kisses me like 20 billion times a day. I'm not going to see this him for a bit and see what that does, but what do you think is going on?
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    N0help4u Posts: 19,825, Reputation: 2035
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    Feb 20, 2009, 10:20 PM

    A relationship should never exhaust you. If it is exhausting you it is because you are trying too hard to make something work that is not meant to be.
    Not seeing him won't help because the patterns will still be there when you do see him. Not seeing him in your case is more an avoidance thing than anything.
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    Feb 21, 2009, 03:40 AM

    I think it's because he loves you too much.he cares a lot about you and that's why you don't know the importance of having him in your life but let me tell you,I don't know if you'll believe me or not,I had ever been in your situation where my boyfriend love me a lot, cared so much about me that I was even ignoring him when I saw him.he was after me and I was tired of my relation.when I got his 'sms',I deleted it without reading.I didn't want to hear about him.

    but you know what,one day he told me that we have to break up because of a personal problem.their were tears in my eyes and I hugged him tight.I was surprised by my reactions.I even told him not to leave me though he didn't want.it's then that I had realized that I love him and also I had thought how will it be when he'll not be here for me.

    I regret the way I behaved with him,I didn't know the value of his love for me..

    am sure that your boyfriend loves you a lot,make sure that you don't hurt him because being in love is very difficult.its a time of happiness but also of pain.

    goodluck!
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    Feb 21, 2009, 11:23 AM

    Your drowning in this relationship and you need a life outside of it not around it. Time to start hanging out with friends and setting up dates like your did in the beginning.

    Right now your sick of him because you see him too much. As I said before start seeting up dates, don't talk too much over the phone or keep the conversations short, etc
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    Feb 28, 2009, 03:42 AM
    Its OK.. I'm glad that finally your problem is solved.
    Bye,take care
    God Bless
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    tessa0987 Posts: 31, Reputation: -3
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    Jun 3, 2012, 06:57 PM
    Be honest don't break up with him. Maybe he isn't doing a great job at loving you right now but you need to tell him how you honestly feel so you two can work it out think about your past together <3 it helps with me an mine

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