[gottaaquestion]

I have been w/ my boyfrind for 3 years. Year 1 great year 2 OK but year 3 having problems. His past relationships never lasted more than 3 year. We arnt having sex anymore I mean its been months also we have a 10 year age difference he is in his early 30s and me in my early 20s. He doesn't show me any affection all he does is sleep eat and work. I hardly get a kiss good by and I yell and threaten to leave him if he don't get his act togeather. I don't no what's going on in his life that he might not be talking to me about. That's another problem he never wants to talk about our problems. I didn't mention that we live together. He pays half the rent and that's it. I pay everything else. Am I getting walked all over? I just don't no what to do everything has been perfect until now. I love him but I'm not happy!! How should I go about this the right way. What do I say?



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[rockie100]

Well, first you must have found that threats, and yelling do nothing. Ok, moving on from that. You stated that everything had been perfect up till now... Does that mean that at one point he helped out more than just paying for 1/2 the rent? He would, at one time, talk to you about problems, and give you love and affection? If so, I would tend to believe he has quit the relationship. If you have never received these things from him, then you really never had a relationship with him that could last. Of course your unhappy.
You can calmly inform him that you think he has ended the relationship, and that you are not happy. Start taking steps to move out. Or find a different roommate. Sounds as though a roommate, at best, is what you are to him. Remember, threats don't work. So if you plan on telling him this or anything for that matter, It can't be just a threat. Im sure this is why he has continued on this way without changing. He thinks you will just allow it to go on.

[I wish]

Quit being his doormat.

Love is a two-way street. Sounds like you live on a one-way street.