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We all go through this honey,
I PROMISE, one day, you're going to look back at this, and him, and LAUGH. And you'll be in a man's arms that wouldn't hurt you like that and is just for you.
I've...

Sounds like a shady character.
Wean off him for a while, and see how much he means business.

But until you find out just how much, just worry about yourself, see if YOU can live without HIM....

Let this one go, it will be hard for a while, but in the long run, it will be the best thing you'll ever do for yourself.
How can you marry someone, raise kids and a family with someone like that....

Thank you!
But all the other areas in my life are just fine. Almost perfect. If you're referring to any older posts, they're all old and I've grown a lot since then and now laugh at them.
But...

About 2 weeks ago, my boyfriend of one year and I were hanging out at our usual spot, A café in a local shopping center, for his best friends birthday. My boyfriend is a pretty heavy smoker. About 3...

What you guys have been telling me is to let him put in more effort..

Or see if he will.

Kay so today I went NC to see how much effort he puts in on his own.. and to test if he gives a &%#! That I do talk to him..


From 11 to 5pm, he texted me 3 or 4 times now..

Hmm..

its not bad at all to roll with it... unless it bores you to tears cause he just wont step up a bit.

That's exactlyyy what's going on..
I'm almost completely over him now.. :/
Cause at this...

UPDATE:
He texted me today at like 5 pm and we talked for a bit.. he called me babe again a few times and also during the conversation he mentioned that he feels he's not good enough for me..

?...

It would be a shame to see you waste your hard work on her when she contributes nothing. You want her for someone to look at and just be with. When in all reality, you're better off without her. You...

Absolutely. You fell in lust with her!
Easily confused.. two similar feelings.
Happens to the best of us.

&wow.. yes you really are better off without this broad. I'm sorry, ha
Think of it as...

Hey buddy..

Its normal what your going through, what's going on in your head.. that pain that's off and on...

That means your healing.
Slowly but surely.


She's trying to contact you....

All right.. so things are already going back to the way they were..
I reallyy believe I was right about him becoming distant so he can go to miami and have fun

LEAVE IT ALONE!
NOOOO CONTACT!

Hang in there, you've gotten this far, don't give it up now!
It'll get easier as time goes by.

Yep.. I feel you on that one.. its always feast or famine.. I hate it!

But yeah, thanks. Good advice. I really do feel like I'm starting to get over him.. not over him over him but you know, like...

There is no hurry, I'm just impatient.. I'm going to work on that..
And ill keep you updated. :)
Thank you!
For the reality check :P

I know

I agree with you as well..

Thanks guys.



What do you mean?

Like I said before..


and dont get me wrong,
my life doesnt revolve around this stuff. i go out with my friends a lotttt (and not just party) and work and go to school. i do have a normal,...

I know..


But did I ruin everything?

How do I un- do this impression?
Or make it up

I feel so dumb though.
Like I'm overthinking everything

And I feel like I chased him away
And he thinks I'm so insecure and like obsessed with him. :/

I wasn't talking about him..

Are you saying I should just be more of a friend to him?

I'm just so confused by him and I just want to know what's going on in his head

Thanks tal.

But I like this guy..
Should I just let him go?
Because I'm not steady for a relationship..
?

I am insecure.

:/

What should I do?

Ive been thinking he had a lack of interest in me for a while now, that's what this is all about..
Just the whole vibe is different.. and it was worse texting today.. (but I guess its cause he was...

??
I was sober..
I was only drunk when I texted him the first time..
He wrote back basically the next day

Threads merged.

Here's the update..
He got back in town last night. I texted him at 3:30 a.m.. Because I was drunk. :/ I said hey are you up? He texted me at like 8a.m just saying hey whatsup.....

I met most at school.. one at work..
This recent one is from school.
And me and him didn't have sex.
We fooled around a bit, after like 3 weeks of talking.. but didn't go all the way.

It's a self esteem thing..
My ex was the same way.
This new girls not so attractive, so it doesn't apply.

Haha :) I live in vegas!

You shouldn't plan things out like that..
You both need to give each other space, and see what happens.
Go with the flow and let fate do its part.

Or else things will happen un naturally. And...

You got to let him go.
Live your life. And let him live his.

Let him get his stuff straightened out, and maybe down the road you guys will find each other again and happily be together.

Try doing things like writing, or thing that make you happy doing.

Things that naturally relieve stress.. for me its dancing.


And it sounds like you are just in touch with some not so great...

You can't have a relationship without trust.
Let him know that his issues and extremes like making you call on your house phone are really getting to you, and you need to breathe. He needs to...

Quit telling yourself not to get over him. And just do it.
It may be tough, but in the long run it's good for you.



If you love something, set it free... if it comes back it was meant to be ;)

Going NC is something you have to feel for in your instinct if it's not 100% clear that that's what you should do.
I recommend it a lottt, but in your case I think you would end up feeling worse...

Thanks KP,
I'll keep you posted.

NOOO CONTACT! That would be the most expressive way to do it..

Honestly no, it's not hard.
But these guys that are there to run to just see a vulnerable chick and see it as easy access.

She'll be making a huge mistake if she does this, and she'll find that...

Okay,
This girl wants validation.
That's what most girls seek..
Validation that you're still there..
So that she can do what she wants, and still have you at her feet when she so desires.
And...

No, not at all.. quite the opposite..
The only one that might get over it and move on is you!
Try.


But yeah, quite the opposite, it'll drive her nuts, she'll wonder where you are, what you...

Hmm.. vverryyy shady.
Just try the no contact rule.

You can do that by the NC rule!
It is indeed absolutely possible. And actually bound to happen if you put the effort in, It isn't easy though. You must suffer through it.
But like I said before,...

He's probably wanting to screw around and have fun.
He wants you, probably mostly, and does like you and being around you..
But he doesn't want the bf/gf label because of the commitment that goes...

I wouldn't worry too much about it..
You're over thinking it.
School should be your first priority, it's better for you guys what your doing here.

Until then, just stay in eachothers lives and...

She's just putting her gurad up now, and its sketchy and doesn't want to get hurt anymore.
She's probably not seeing anyone else, just wants some time to herself and to think things through, but at...

You guys don't go further? That was Just that once?



If so, yes it does sound like she's interested.

If not, then she just wants a friends with benefits situation.

"..how am i being there how am i helping her get over me. "

By making yourself so available and at her feet. Now she's under the impression that she can do what she wants and you'll still be there...

Well things are going well.. I texted him today on my own at about 5p.m.. I said hey.. he said hey how's it going within a minute later.. than I said nm just thinking of you.. he said aw that's...

Okay so sure he's busy, partyin? Absolutely.. he even told me.. hooking up with girls? Probably.. I don't know. I don't care.
Let it go cause he's on spring break, sure
But you guys, he started...

It is linked to the first one.. the most recent before this..
But not that second one "got screwed over"
That's old.. I did want to link them myself but wasn't sure if I can or how.
So thanks but...