OK, so I was dating this girl who happened to be pregnant, and she was like the perfect girlfriend. She told me she had decided to have the baby, but give it up for adoption. But a few weeks later, she told me she had to have this baby and that she loved it. She wanted me to be the father... I couldn't agree to it. I am only 18. Eventually I had to break up with her. I was so scared of this child and the effect it would have on my life, because I can't afford it, while I'm going to university. We stayed very close. We still had intimate relations, but after not seeing each other for a while (we lived 4 hours away) she found someone else. It tore me apart. She says she loves me still but has feelings for someone else too. I don't know what to do. I love her very much but I'm lost. I don't know whether its love that makes me want her back or jealousy. I want her to be happy. What should I do... :confused:

Well you should drop it and find someone else.. you left her when she needed you. She asked you to be the father, you said no. Right there you already chose what you were going to do. Sure its fine to saty friends but if she has found someone else who makes her happy, let her be happy and move on

Sounds to me like she is trying to find a father figure to her baby and to support her. Move on. There are plenty of strong smart women out there not carrying the extra baggage of children. At 18 you don't need that. Get your education.

Deal Breaker... man that sucks. Your only 18 explain to her that the baby isn't in your future at this time. Just go with your gut if you really feel this woman is important to your life and even if she has a child you think it might just be able to workout go with it. You need to have a long conversation expressing your point of few and seeing hers too.

I all I had to say is move on I had a child at 18 and the father was not their my best friend(Now my husband) at the time took his place we are very happy he, has raised her as his own, it's a hard thing to do and if there is a man their for her know that really want to help I say let it be hopefully he will be true to her, I don't blame you thought to not except that responsibility its hard your young and it wasn't your child so I say move on let her go and you try to focus on your future so when you do find that right lady then you can be ready

I think it might be more jealousy than you actually wanting her back.

You know what you can handle and what you can't and you did the right thing. If you would've sign the birth certificate for this child, knowing that it wasn't yours, you could have been legally responsible for this child until he or she was 18. This includes child support and you wouldn't have wanted that.

I agree with Donn that she's looking for a father for her child but your not it. Focus on your school work and making something out of your life so when you do meet someone and settle down, your able to provide for your family.