I'm going to do my best to make this long story a short one. Me and my girl dated for 2 1/2 years LONG DISTANCE while in college. She goes to school in our home town and I go to a 7 hour away university. We broke up just as summer begun, usually when we get over all the long distance frustration. She ends up dating someone else IMMEDIATELY. They last all summer till he turns out to be a psycho, so she comes to me naturally. So I'm here for her, giving her advice, and I come home to see her and things are pretty good. Then, I fudged it up all because of my over-eagerness. I didn't want to lose her again and so I pushed her to tell me if she still loved me and if she wanted to get back together. She is still confused about everything that's happened over the past few months and doesn't have an answer for me. We decide it is best not to talk for a little while. She calls me for the final time and I fudge up even more. I tell her I can't wait around waiting for her to tell me if she loves me or not and I am going to move on. I felt like absolute **** afterwards so I told her I didn't mean what I said and was frustrated. She sends me an email two days later saying I should move on and find someone new and that she is sorry for using me to get over her ex. I sent her one back saying she hurt me not once but twice and I will move on. Problem is.. I still want her but I screwed it all up. I want to email her and apolgize for pushing her into giving me an answer too soon. I am going to be home for Thanksgiving should I contact her then? The feeling of almost getting her back and screwing it up is worse than when I thought I lost her forevr the first time. What do I do?

I think you should email her saying your sorry and say that you should get together some time and start as friends then build up from there. Ask her if she is dating she says no you build up to best friends. But one thing is be okay with whoever she is dating because if they break up you can be the sholder to cry on always be there for her and she will come back to you!

She told you what she wants for you - move on and let her move on.

When you're home you can always call her, see how she is, sort of touch base and see where it goes from there.

As far as always being the shoulder she cries on - is that what you want out of a relationship, second choice?

I think you both need some time apart - which you have had - and now I'd make another attempt at contact. In person or by telephone, by the way.