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    BrainPower Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 6, 2009, 04:33 PM
    Is partaking partially in a porn filming consider cheating?
    So this is my story. Dated my boyfriend for over a year now. But the thing is at the beginning of our relationship of dating 2months, he takes a trip to Asia with his buddies. Came back and I found a short video of him and his friends. His friend having sex with a prositute. He didn't partake in it but was in the room. He said that is not cheating because he had no choice but to stay in the room since him and his friends were sharing a room. So I sort of forgive him but then later found a chat history he had with a friend telling his friend that he would date this one girl if it wasn't because she was the sister of his friend and that was 6 months into our relationship. Now he say he loves me and the past is the past... it was the beginning of our relationship so that doesn't count. What do you guys think? Can I trust him that he has changed or is he just a good actor?
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    artlady Posts: 4,208, Reputation: 1477
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    Mar 6, 2009, 05:31 PM

    I think the sex trade is why many men go to this part of the world.
    Clearly,he did not go there to embrace the culture.
    If he gives you no reason to think otherwise ,you should trust him
    However ,being a party to this blatant exploitation of women would concern me.
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    Mar 6, 2009, 06:03 PM

    He's an actor to the core. Don't trust him since he did go to Asia with his buddies. A known haven for sex freaks. Anyone who was "forced" into having to watch a sex act being filmed is nothing but trash. He just might not have had his "session" filmed.
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    Mar 6, 2009, 09:24 PM

    Scumbag alert. ::sound sirens here:: brainpower, I have to think you're also aware of the big red flags this guy has been waving in front of you. As twinkiedooter suggested, it's very possible that your boyfriend engaged in things that were not filmed (or were otherwise erased). I'm not buying the excuse about him needing to stay in the room while his friend was having sex with this prostitute. I don't know about you, but most couples have sex in private. It would have been much more normal for him to have gone out during their interaction. The only reason he would stay would be because he was enjoying it. I definitely would not buy into the "i had no choice" line. He had a choice, and he chose to stay. If his friends are all sleeping with prostitutes or engaging in similar activities, why would you think that he would be any different? Did they have girlfriends? Did any of them cheat? You know, like attracts like. He might have justified some things to himself at the time because your relationship was still so new. Unfortunately, that wouldn't work with me because he was still in a relationship. I don't know what he did or did not do, but his answers to you leave me wondering about his honesty.

    It seems like you've found a number of suspicious looking things during your time with him. I'm wondering how many things there might be that you haven't come across. Perhaps you should be asking yourself if you really trust him. If you do, then I don't know where these doubts would be coming from. If you don't trust him, then maybe you shouldn't be with him at all. Complete trust is the foundation to any great relationship, and that's what you should believe you really deserve. Best wishes.
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    Mar 6, 2009, 09:45 PM

    Had to spread the rep linnealand
    But I just love scumbag alert! I am cracking up. Its just such a great alert :)

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