I was dating this guy from Fairfax VA. He works in Manasses. I was in love with him or you can say that's what I thought. He was also very much interested in me and told me many times that I was this angel god sent for him on this earth. He told me he was in love with me with tears in his eyes. I was not aware of his addiction of drugs and porn at first, by the time I found out it was too late. I got pregnant and he left me to deal with it on my own, he wanted me to get rid of it. Why would someone be so selfish and cold. How can I do that, how can I kill someone who has not even born yet? It hurts even thinking about it. Why do people change like that. All I wanted to do is to be happy and share a wonderful life with him loving and taking care of him. If he did not wanted to do anything with me then why would he promise things. Why so many lies, what did he get putting me through this?? Why would anyone do this to anybody?

HI Tyrapal,

Am not against men... but from my experience & the posts I read everyday, it shows that you do not care for anything but themselves... and what they want... they are so kind, tender, promise you the moon, cries for your love till they get you they start treating you badly and you end up alone with a broken heart... we can not blame alone for it... it's our mistake too that we do believe them, give with out insurance that what they promised they are going to fulfil... we believe & trust them blindly without trying to investigate if what they have said is true or not... Am sorry to say that but he was bluffing just for sex , lust when he had what he want and you got pregnant he does not want you because you are not asking him for commitment which most of them hate but also you are with huge responsibility... YOU ARE THE WINNER... I do not think you want to spend your life & raise your unborn kid with a man who is addicted to drugs & porn... BE STRONG, thing of what you want out of this life, do you want the baby with huge responsibility alone??

Take care of yourself...

Ms. Redrose

Sorry my post full with spellin gmistakes although I have checked it before posting it... thanks to fever :(

First things first,

How far along are you in your pregnancy?
Have you seen a doctor?
Have you planned on what to do when the baby is born? Keep the baby? Or are you planning to give up for adoption?

At this moment of time I think it is important to think of the baby first.I don't mean to sound harsh,but as you have said the man you thought who loved you has a love much stronger for other things.
There is nothing much that could be done and from what you have said about his addictions, I think he needs to get help from professionals to recover from his addictions before he can become a family man/father and/or husband to you.

About men leaving the women they love or the other way round,that is human life and we could never know why one does the things they do.
That being said, I think you need to get help for yourself and the baby...