Ehh.. okay here is the deal:

I met this really great guy on a dating website, exchanged email and then starting talking on the phone. His schedule was really busy and we were not able to meet up before he went out of town for a week. However, during that week we talked on the phone a ABSOLUTELY ridiculous amount. It was crazy. We found out so much about each other which made it even more nerve wrecking to meet when he finally got back into town.

The first "meeting" went well, considering circumstances. Stayed out really late and he gave me a peck goodbye. Even called me when he got home to say he had a good time. We talked most of the next day too like we usually do. I was excited. Well- then he asked me out on a REAL date.

It was perfect. Honestly. He took me to one of the nicest restaurants in town, opened doors, went to movies, held my hand during the movie and then again as we were walking out of the theatre.(EEEH pda!! ). Anyway- he drove me home, we talked for about an hour in the drive-way and then he walked me to my door. Gave me a good night kiss- (;) and it was really sweet. I feel like everything went great but...

That was 2 nights ago. I know there is that stupid 3 day rule that some guys follow but its so strange because before we went out on that date, we talked everyday for HOURS. Now- don't get me wrong- it was too much. But now, nothing. I broke and texted him goodnight last night and he responded "nite". UGHH.

What do u think he is thinking and when should I get the hint?

BTW I am 21 and he is 28. Not sure if that makes any difference.

Thank you

Hi Kureea,

The age difference is not so important.

I can only answer you from the way I would feel after going on a first date.

Either he did find you attractive and will want to see you again in the hope that your relationship will grow or for one reason or another has decided that you may not be what he is looking for.

If I were in his shoes and wanted to get to know and see you more I would have got in touch with you by now. If he does like you and wants to see you again I am a little surprised that he has not contacted you yet and that he could only say 'nite' when he replied to your text.

My thoughts are, don't get your hopes up at the moment, but wait a couple more days to see if he contacts you again. There may be a good reason why he has notgot in touch yet, which is nothing to do with the way he feels about you.

If you don't hear from him in the next few days, ring, text or email him to ask him straight out if he enjoyed meeting you and your date. Also tell him how you feel about him (but please don't go overboard) and ask him whether he can see a future for you both. Ask him to be honest.

You obviously do not know what his answer will be, but at least you will know where you stand with him.

Good luck

Cy
(Poseidon)

I would suggest calling him or meeting him to discuss things and forget about communicating electronically. It is so easy to hide how someone really feels when they communicate that way.

I do agree that if I were in his shoes and wanted to get to know and see you more then he would have gotten in touch with you by now. Also, that you shouldn't get your hopes up or be in a rush. Some things just take time and there can be many factors that influence when and how people do things.

He must have hidden something... be sure you meet him before you judge it.

I can never get it when girls say "XXX is great, nice..."

I mean, how long do you know him? How do you know him? And who is going to dump a drink on your head when you first meet him? Of course they act nice, unless they are retarted, right?

Never judge a person based on simple conversations without even meeting the person. That way, you are in love with what in your head. Be realistic now, see if he wants to meet out sometime. And again you still can't tell what he really is, until many times of meeting.

That's why I always say " love without friendship is shallow".

All you texted him was goodnight and he replied with night as well? I don't see the issue. I think you are reading WAY too much into it. What did you want him to text back "darling I'm falling deeply and crazily in love with you and just haven't been able to pull my head down from the clouds for one moment to call?".

Here is what I think is going on he is now trying to back peddle and play it cool. If he doesn't call after 3 days let it go and find someone else to date. If he waits longer then that then he is not really all that interested in you.

" I think you are reading WAY too much into it"

I am pretty sure u have nailed it with this. I tend to do this a lot. You gave great advice! Honestly.

UPDATE: he texted me last night which would be exactly 3 nights after our great date. This is what it read "does olia still want to meet my uncle"... now this may not make any sense but my best friend olia was interested in a business that his uncle owns.

I thought this was completely irrelevant and since I was on another date- I decided to not respond. What the hell is going on here? I truly thought he was really into me- I am trying to play it cool... but I don't know what to do. Should I call, text or just forget it?

Thank you all for your responses. This is the first time using this site and its pretty cool!

Honestly, k

You are smitten with a stranger, and trying to figure him out, and you want more. You know nothing of him, and even though he put his best foot forward, its to early, WAY TO EARLY, to have high expectations at all. Did I mention he is a stranger? Back off, and don't contact him.

Okay okay I get the hint---- great advice I won't do anything

I think that he lost his chance. I'm of the opinion that if a guy doesn't call within 3 days then he is not that interested. I'm sure you are meeting plenty of other guys I'd say give them a chance.

Also, I speak from experience. Do not spend time getting emotional invested in someone (ie spending hours on the phone) before you meet them. I do one phone call that lasts at the most 1 hour and then we meet. That way I don't have any notions of "what a great guy" he is or anything like that.