I like this guy who I had threesome with. I met him before the threesome a month prior to be exact. The first the three of us hung alone was over this past weekend. That's when the EVENT to place. The guy and I were very much into each other. We even went all the way but he asked me to stop shortly after. I went home after that and the two of them came by later on around noon that Friday. Friday night we went out came back to my house where the guy and I shared a room and our friend in another. We didn't do anything until the next morning. He went home came back later on Sunday early morning we held each other all night long again.

Super bowl Sunday the guy and I went by his friends house to watch the superbowl and have a few cocktails. We fell asleep there and went to my house that next morning. He went home after a few hours and nothing has been the same sense.

I really like this guy. We don't communicate with each when we're not together as much as we could. I saw him Wednesday night and we didn't even kiss hug or nothing. He did acknowledge me in affectionate way when I got the in the car the first time that night . Went by our friends mother house .we sat on the couch and I listened to a few songs together on his music player with him and then he fell asleep. We went to grab a bite to eat after we left there.when my friend went to order the food I told him I liked him and I wish that things wouldn't have happened the way they did on that Thursday night. I think our actions on that night might have effected the way we communicate we each other..


He likes me I like him but there's something wrong


He agreed with the turning back the hands of time .


And starting all over again


I'm just not sure of what he wants to do

Sorry to say but you jumped in the sack with him way too quickly, this has obviously left you with feelings for him, and him just being plain confused.

Best thing to do is to just give him some space and time to clear his head a bit. If you want him, don't chase him, as it will push him away further. If he likes you, he will make it known, but if he just wants to use you for sex, he will make that known as well. Rely on your intuition and observe his actions, this will help you tell the difference between whether he genuinely likes you or just wants sex.

Hope it all turns out for the best.

I forgot to add that we id have some type of connection that Saturday morning. He left out and came back saying he didn't want to leave me, and that he liked being around me.

I also need to add that my friend liked me at one point but I wasn't GOING ( I'm not attracted to him at all ). I look at him as is.

But anyway, MY friend has mentioned that he doesn't want me to talk to the guy on any other level than sex. Hell truthfully probably not even that. At least not without him. He's also mentioned that he would do anything he have to to stop this union basically. He tries to mention negative things about the guy around me. And if I say something like "My Baby" or "I love him" (a way of expressing my strong liking for someone between my friends and I). He give me these looks like child please or don't play with me.

To then throw an invincible ball on late Wednesday night using the words So you really like "John Doe" huh. And I was yeah. And saying to myself what knock upside the head made you finally realize this.


What made you say that. And He was like he'll tell me later.
Which were our actions on the couch at out his house that night. i.e sharing the earpiece for the music player, how close we were sitting by each other, and me saying aw my baby sleepy when we were in the car.

And inviting him to my house while my family were visiting for the night and occupying every room in the house besides the living room. So we would have been in the living room for that night. But friend allowed him to stay at his house for the night. Prior to that my friend had said that he through with the guy because of their little friend quarrels or what not. My friend was basically being a .


But that was it. After that statement he made on the phone about me really liking the fella the guy went home Thursday morning and I haven't heard from him since. He was supposed to have dropped off something I left in his car also that morning before he left to go home .We talked on the phone before he left out of the house. My friend stays about 2 minutes from me. But he did never showed. He didn't call or anything. The next call I received was from my friend saying he was on the other side of town about 20 to 30 minutes later. I asked why he didn't bring my things by my home before they left this side of town and he said I don't know. Now I don't know if my friend is BEING A on my time. Trying to tear us apart as best as he can or if the guy is responsible for his own actions. My friend can be very manipulative at times.

So you thought you could handle a threesome. But apparently not because now you are emotionally attached. I think it's a pretty safe bet that he isn't. But if he is... say you two did have a relationship. Will he expect threesomes? Will he think that he can sleep around? Will you be able to trust him?

Trust won't be an issue and I've had a threesome before. If you read the whole thing you would learn that I already had much interest in this guy. Being under the influence is what kicked it off. But anyway I already know what to do. And that's give him his space.

Oh he likes me also he's said it himself. He wouldn't expect threesomes, and I would not have an issue with trust. He knows he wouldn't be able to sleep around. There's no reason for him to do that.


It don't take much. Just one listening ear is fine with me. Positive advice is cool

It 's already taken care of thanks

Honey you are being use as a sex toy by two guys, and there is not telling how many more girls they have just like you. Don't let yourself be used like toilet paper and then thrown away.

Yes, you have emotional feelings, the guys are having hormone feelings and they love to have you around for the sex.

When the guys love you with no sex first you have a wonderful relastionship latter. Almost never does any relastionshiop that comes from group activities ever work out.

I think it is amusing you all assume that Poster Child is a Girl or Woman.
I have a very strong feeling Poster child is a guy...
This is an all man threesome. Poster child am I correct?
I know you stated you knew him previously but even when people have a relationship a threesome changes everyone's opinion.
In any case a threesome isn't the best way to start an interest with someone that will lead to a relationship. But you cannot change what has happened. Water under the bridge.
Just be cool and see how it plays out. You cannot control or push things It just seems needy Hmmm seems like a "sticky situation" Best of luck

You're correct I am a man...

And to the young lady who commented on me not caring for more than one listening ear, you're correct too.

I posted this question for answers and advice. Not for someone to judge me.. but give it up for freedom of speech hey..

I'm sorry you misunderstood me, I wasn't judging I was trying to give you something to think about. Best of luck with all of this.

I hope you don't feel judged. I have many friends who are gay. Including my X husband.
The complexities in a gay relationship is if you haven't come out and been accepted things have to be done on the down low. It is more common for Gay men to get together and have a threesome and party. Sex is a bit freeer in the gay community and this situation is not odd. However that being said dating while gay is no picnic either and emotions run high. I am not placing a label here. I just know the lifestyle.
Plus the reason why your friend did not want you hooking up with the other guy without him is because he is very into you. He enjoys the threesomes but wants you individually for himself. This is a very emotional situation.
It is hard to advise. Other then it is hard to protect your heart when you have multiple sex partners. I think you should establish more boundaries that you are willing to stick too in your mind. I hope you find a lifetime partner who can appreciate you. My thoughts are with you. I have many friends who have. However I have seen many friends get their hearts broken.
Cheshire