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Sledsik · Mar 23, 2010, 02:51 PM

Hey everyone, I am 21 and am going to college. I have been noticing this girl that has been walking in the halls lately which I think is really cute and she is really catching my attention, so much that I don't think I have passed another girl and felt that way if that makes sense. I want to say something to her, maybe tell her that I think she is cute and would like to get her number or name so we can chat on FB or something like that but then again I don't want to screw it up. I would say she is probably 19 or 20 if that helps. Any advice on how I should go about talking to her please?

Alty · Mar 23, 2010, 03:00 PM

This is always hard. I remember the butterflies in my stomach just thinking about talking to someone I was interested in. Want to know what I learned? Just do it! That's really the only way.

Is she in any of your classes? If she is, why not start a conversation about the class, ask her what she thinks about it, tell her what you think, then go from there.

Or you could do the gutsy, direct approach, which will make you sweat but boy will you feel better after you do it. Just go up to her and say "Hi, I've noticed you walking down the halls and I just have to introduce myself. I'm wondering if maybe you'd like to grab lunch together some time."

Here's the thing, you have to talk to her in order to get to know her, so take a chance, the worst that can happen is that she rejects you, but hey, maybe she won't. You won't know until you try. :)

AmericanGirl01 · Mar 23, 2010, 03:01 PM

Just say what you told us, approach her, introduce yourself. You could tell her you were wondering if you could maybe get her number or grab something to eat sometime together. Keep it light and casual.

What's the worst that can happen? :) At least if you do approach her and things don't work out, you'll at least know and you can be proud of yourself for trying. Instead of not doing anything and always wondering "what if..."

Sledsik · Mar 23, 2010, 05:20 PM

Yea I don't have any classes with her, she has a class right next to mine at the same time. I kind of want to catch her in the parking lot but don't want to make look like I was waiting for her. I just don't want to screw it up.

CarrotTalker · Mar 23, 2010, 05:28 PM

Who cares if you screw it up, there will be another girl!
If she likes you, she would give you a second chance anyway or find you screwing up charming.

Sledsik · Mar 24, 2010, 03:50 PM

Okay well Im going to try it out tomorrow, Ill make sure to look really good and try not to let my heart pound too fast lol. She seems like she would be nice, aka doesn't look like a so hopefull things go my way. I think what Im going to do is just walk up to her and ask her what her name is and then say that something about you just makes me want to talk to you so I was just wondering if I could maybe get you number and we could talk sometime? That sound like it would be okay?

I wish · Mar 25, 2010, 07:16 AM

Are you completely over the break up yet? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-455926.html

I hope that you're not looking for a rebound.

It's fine to make new friends, but don't create the expectation that she will be your new girlfriend, because that would be setting yourself up to get hurt.

Furthermore, rebounds are unfair to the other person.

AmericanGirl01 · Mar 25, 2010, 10:26 AM

Well, how did it go? Like "I Wish" said, rebounds are extremely unfair to everyone involved.

Just make sure you're honest about where you're at what your intentions are.

Sledsik · Mar 25, 2010, 07:32 PM

It went good! Got her name and number. My knees were shaking a lot lol.

talaniman · Mar 25, 2010, 07:38 PM

I don't care how cute they look, find out who your dealing with, before you get carried away. This ain't high school.

Now find that out can be a lot of fun, so enjoy.

ohsohappy · Mar 25, 2010, 07:46 PM

Woot! Step one get her number, steps 1-infinity, keep getting to know her. :) not that you can't eventually do more than talk, but take your time. :)

Sledsik · Apr 2, 2010, 04:13 PM

I really don't know what to do with this girl, I talked to her on the phone for like 10 minutes, sent her a few texts here and there and Im starting to think she isn't interested. I don't know if I should wait a week or so and give her a call or what. All I need is the opportunity to hang out with her one time so she sees what Im about. How to I go about getting that opportunity if I can hardly get through to her?

talaniman · Apr 2, 2010, 09:51 PM

You can't make her hang out, so back off, and slow down, breathe, relax.

Maybe she is taking her time to get to know you better. What's the hurry? What she is supposed to fall in the arms of some strange dude right away?

Your already getting carried away, and frustrated aren't you? Be cool! Stop texting, and talk over the phone, and find out something about her. Give it a day to compose yourself.