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mrcdog · Nov 15, 2011, 09:33 PM

I (20) had been going out with my girlfriend (18) for 2years 10months (approximately) and I was thinking of moving away and said to her that I think I want to move away at the end of the year, so I said I want go on a break till I decide what I want to do, after a month of not deciding yet she said to me I think we should just break up as I stuffed her round too much. She went on a holiday and kissed another guy. It made me really jealous and now I desperately want her back, I miss having her around so I asked if we can try to make things work, she said she doesn't know and is kind of enjoying being single, how can I try win her back? I'm heart broken without her in my life

I know you might say uour beter with out her blah blah blah but I want to try win her back, not forget her

Cat1864 · Nov 15, 2011, 10:11 PM

I won't say forget her, but I will say let her and the relationship go. You need time and space to heal and to be able to make decisions with a clear head.

As hard as it might seem, this may be for the best since you were already thinking about moving on when you were with her. It seems to me that the only thing that changed was she found out she likes being single and you got jealous about her letting go. Jealousy and 'missing having her around' are not really good reasons to try again. Love isn't always enough.

Have you thought any more about your plans to move away?

Fr_Chuck · Nov 15, 2011, 10:14 PM

You don't seem to wonder, or at least in your post care or address how you telling her you wanted a break felt to her.

Since you after almost 3 years told her you just wanted to break up, for no real reason, how is she suppose to feel?

You need to start by addressing her feelings, not yours.

I wish · Nov 16, 2011, 03:06 PM

The fact that you asked her to go on a break, means that you were ready to lose her. By leaving her hanging like that, you don't give her much security.

It's not going to be easy for you to get her back, because by asking her to go on a break for a month, you left her hanging by a thread. How can she trust you again? When will you ask her to go on another break?

All you can really do is tell her how you feel and hope that she feels the same way. But you can't force her to come back to you.