I dated a guy for a year and then we broke up after that because I liked someone else. And things between me and the guy I was dating weren't going to well. We were constantly fighting. We both loved each other.. very much. We went through a lot together. And 7months into the relationship he asked me to marry him. Yes, we are both young but almost out of high school. We both were devoted to each other. He wouldn't even look at another girl. I totally trusted him. We were also very comfortable with each other. He wasn't only my boyfriend but my best friend,. someone who I can talk to about anything. We were both there for each other. I broke up with him because we were fighting constantly and I sort of was interested in another person. But not enough to start a relationship. I had a crush on this person for about 2 weeks. And then it passed by. But for some reason I got blamed for cheating... when that did not even happen. My boyfriend (or should I say at the time.. ex-boyfriend) was trying to get me back and telling me that he loves me and so on. In my heart I still loved him but I was so overwhelmed with life.. I didn't know what to do. I really hurt him. We were apart for 3months. Then I practically had to beg him to come back and then he finally asked me out about 3 weeks ago. We were going back out but things were not how they used to be at all. I really love him a lot and I realize that now.. but he never calls me,text messages me, or anything! And he used to do that constantly. He really used to love me a lot. Ive tried to tell him that I am devoted to him now and that I love him and I'm going to make it up to him. But it doesn't seem to be working. All he wants to do is be with his friends. And when I ask him to hang out he complains about it. I know in his heart that he still loves me but I think that he really is hurt still. I once said to him... " I'm putting so much into this relationship!" and all he said was, "Yeah, well maybe I like it that way." So that's when I started thinking maybe he is just hurt and wants to feel like I really do love him or something like that. I'm hurting too. The cops have been at my house... twice last week. And my life is not going in the right direction. I feel like Ive lost a part of my heart. I love him a lot. And I need him. Oh, I forgot to say that this past Tuesday he broke up with me. Things have been getting worse.. and I'm trying to figure out how to deal with this,. and wait it off but its hard. He keeps telling me to be pacient and maybe we'll be like we used to be. So I made a "deal" with him. I asked him to wait out the school year and then see where we were then. I hope we get back together but I'm afraid that I've lost him forever. And I don't know what I'm going to do if I actually do. I really do love him. And I would give up my life for him. I know this sounds corny but to kind of give you a picture of what we were like... We were like the couple in the movie "The Notebook." What should I do about all of this?I have tried to sit down and talk with him about it many times. He just keeps pushing me away. Its weird because when I'm not "chasing" him... he "chases" me.

First off, I can feel the pain in your words.

What you need to do is explain all of this to him.

Yes it doesn't surprise me this was the route your relationship took. He put up boundaries after you dumped him, the hurt probably overwhelmed him. Unfortunately because of your age immaturity is rife so don't expect to work through this without effort on both your parts + good communication. You need to work on the issues why you broke up in the first place.

You can either get on with your life or tell him how you feel? What would you prefer...