Head games? Or am I just another crazy woman?
All right, here's my situation. ( its long, because I believe detail is always needed in situations such as these)
Now I know women can be a little nuts. Regardless of how "down to earth" and "cool" we try to be, there's always that little bit of crazy that tends to take over all irrational thought.
About a month ago I met a guy.. we'll call him Joe. I met him at an afterparty for a big show about an hour and a half away from where I live. Immediately after being introduced, he began conversation and never left my side. We talked about meaningless things, having a good time, laughing, poking fun at each other. I had to leave early , because I had to work the next morning. He gave me his number and took mine, asked me to text him when I got home so he knew I made it safely. I obliged and let him know when I finally made it home. He continued to text ( never called.. always text ) me and said he really had a great time and wanted to take me on a date. He drove all the way to my town to take me out to a nice dinner and a few drinks afterwards. At the end of the night he gave me a kiss on the lips and was on his way. He continued to text me about how fantastic he thought I was, left me comments via myspace about such things and thanked our friend for introducing us... profusely. The next week, we decided I would drive up there to see him and spend some time with him... had a great night, I stayed the night ( nothing physical took place, little kisses on the cheek, lips, neck.. but that was it.. still no tongue action at this point.. which I was grateful for because I wanted to take things slow ).
I went home and the "text" relationship continued. Towards the middle of the week he started acting strange.. and continued acting strange. We decided I would come back up the following weekend ( I am currently residing with family due to a transition across country) so we could hang out at home, watch movies, and have a couple drinks.
The night before I drove up to see him, I ran into a friend of his at a show( lets call him... Alex). His friend proceeded to tell me to "watch out" for Joe. That he was terrible to his ex girlfriend.. that he was constant drama.. and he was really afraid that Joe was going to hurt me. Alex said he thought I was a really nice person and he would hate to see such a thing happen to me. Because lets be honest, I wouldn't be writing this if I hadn't at this point really begun to like Joe. He continued with these warnings, and than stopped. We hung out for the rest of the night just.. talking about music and watching people dance and just.. hanging out. I thought nothing of it.
Come the next day and I make my trip to see Joe. Joe has no idea I ran into Alex at the show, but continues to act... strangely. He doesn't talk to me the same... the past 3 times that we had hung out he couldn't keep his eyes off me ( he was obviously attracted to me! ).. and now... he was acting like I was just one of the guys, not attractive to him in the least. As I previously stated he'd been acting very strangely that past week... well right before I left to see him he texted me and said " I'm sorry if I seemed a little distant on the phone, I was really frustrated with the lack of service on my cell phone. I'm really excited to see you.. I'm counting down the hours"... well a few hours after being there I began to get an odd feeling that he just wasn't interested. Whatever, its so early in the "relationship" I could easily hang on to my dignity and move on.
Than he kisses me. Tongue action. Hm. And than continues going about being a weirdo.. not acting interested! Now I'm confused.
Than Alex shows up! Everything is normal, apparently Joe has no idea Alex and I spoke about him and I'm not letting on. Drama. I don't want it.
Joe PASSES OUT... and I'm barely catching a buzz, kind of wanted to stay up for a bit. It was still early. So Alex and I have this.. deep conversation about EVERYTHING in general. I was really excited to finally have a new friend! ( again, just moved from across the country.. didn't know many people )
Alex didn't just want to be friends.
The next morning Joe and I woke up and he had to study. So I read on the couch and he studied. Didn't pay one iota of attention to me, so I finally got up to leave. He gave me a pathetic little peck and said he would come see me next time.
Well, I never heard from Joe again. Oh wait, scratch that. I texted him the next day and told him I didn't feel as if he was interested in me.. and if that was the case, I was okay with that.. I would just appreciate it if he would let me know.
He told me he thought he gave me that impression, but he was just studying and had a lot on his mind, he still planned on coming to see me.
Fast forward one week.
Alex and I continued talking.. Alex trying to pursue me.. me holding off, because honestly, I didn't want any drama from Joe. My feelings long subsided due to the apparent lack of interest on his part. Whatever, no big deal.
I find out Joe has actually been seeing and sleeping with another girl. Its kind of a slice to the pride you know? He's been hanging out with her when I leave, I mean... I had no idea. I'm okay with dating numerous people at the same time.. but I'd at least like to know.
So glad we never got physical.
Either way, back to the problem at hand.
Alex continued trying to pursue me. So finally I said listen, if Joe won't have any qualms about it ( how could he? )than I would love to go out with you sometime.
He was ecstatic. So we continued our phone/text "relationship" over the following week, and its coming up on our date.
Now he had listened to me about Joe and how immature I thought it was that he didn't even have the decency to "break things off"... or even just... TELL ME!
And Alex said, you don't have to worry about that with me... I know you can't stand it when a guy doesn't call or text you. I won't do that.
For the last 3 days... he literally texts me once.. says something like "Hey babe" or " You're so cute" something.. sometimes we'll carry on a conversation.. but lately.. its been something trivial he'll send me and than I don't hear from him. Until 24 hours later. On the dot.
It's weird.
Now I know this just seems like me telling a story.. but I'm curious as to what your opinion may be.
Some of my friends have come to the conclusion that he and Joe are playing a mean prank on me. Maybe its this huge stupid "scam" God only knows. That's a little outlandish I'll admit.
Others, say he's just not interested anymore.
Or maybe he's just busy?
Is it okay for me to call him? Or should I keep the ball in his court? I don't really know what to do.. because I truly don't want to be played. I don't want to get involved with someone who won't call me.
It's the worst thing in the WORLD when a man doesn't call or even text a woman. Because suddenly your caught looking at your phone every 5 minutes willing SOMETHING to happen. You feel like your not important enough to even pick up the phone for.
That's when I feel like a basket case. I hardly know the guy, its been a few weeks. And he's the friend of the first guy I've let take me out in almost a YEAR!
Oy. Help.
I'm just insane and need a little guidance. ( I never grew up with a mother, just a cynical drunk dad so I'm always a little at a loss with this kind of stuff! )
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