Sex on the first date and you've never had a date since? In the past 2 months how many times have you had sex?
You usually set the tone for a relationship over the course of your first 4 dates. Sounds like you two skipped to the bored-relationship-stage after the first date. I'd blame it on the "earth-moving sex".
I'm not preaching, I'm reminding you that cause-and-effect is a reality in the universe. You do ONE thing, these other things usually result.
On the RAREST of occasions, sleeping with someone on the first date can lead to a meaningful and lifelong couple. By rare I mean it doesn't happen often enough to think you're going be the one.
So acting this freely before you've even had a chance to get to know a guy is dangerous in ways you don't even realize. Sex gives a false sense of connection in this situation. It gives a false sense of "importance" to a bond that hasn't even actually been proven yet
Look, forget everything that has happened between you so far. Pretend you JUST met him but you already know the following things about him:
- He isn't interested in actual dates, actually going out and entertaining
- He lives with his mom (that may be fine, but it does belong on the list)
- Says one thing but seems to do another
- Shy of kids and other people's houses
That's really all you gave us, but I bet you could lengthen that list.
If you didn't already have a sexual relationship with this guy, would you START dating a guy with the pedigree you now know about him? Would you really?
The reason you go slow (no sex, no crazy bonding behavior) in the early months is to find out who this guy actually is. You do it because you know nothing other than you like him, which isn't actually a character trait, is it?
You didn't do that, so now look how hard it is to pragmatically judge anything? LAST THOUGHT:
Guys don't change a whole lot. Especially not ones his age. What you're seeing is what you're going to be getting. Would you choose freely to date someone like this if you weren't already in it?