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    RPhearts11 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 7, 2011, 03:09 PM
    He doesn't want to be in a relationship
    I've been talking to this guy for a while now and he always talked so nice to me, telling me that he likes me, Saying that I'm the perfect girl for him, and bhlaaa... but a couple of days ago he told me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship. So I was like "okay... We can just go with the flow." we were basically friends with benefits. And a few days ago I've noticed on fb that there's this girl that keeps flirting with him and I'm sure he does the same. (cause that's the type of guy he is)
    And id like to know if I Should ask him if he likes that girl? Or should I just leave it alone and move on.. We now don't talk as we used to... And it's making me very upset cause here I am.. Not trying to talk to other guys cause I feel bad...
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    Jan 7, 2011, 04:04 PM

    Your not having a relationship, you are just like you said " friends with benefits". So he can spread his benefits to whom ever he wants.

    It maybe time to break off all contact with this guy, you maybe feeling more for him then he is for you. Get out and meet other people.
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    Jan 7, 2011, 05:27 PM
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    I think your right!
    Thank for everything :)
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    Jan 8, 2011, 04:08 PM
    I'm telling you,from personal experience,don't go there.Because it only gets worse.Now it's the time to leave.Tell him you don't want to be with him any longer,not because he matters too much for you and you want him all to yourself,but because what you want is a relationship and that he can't offer.You'll be crying and winning for a week or two,but then it'll get better,and you'll start treating him just like any other guy,and you'll start meeting new,interesting people.

    Let this go on and one year from now you'll have to make this decision again,and then you'll be crying and winning for a couple months.
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    Jan 9, 2011, 06:56 AM

    I'm no fan of the "friends with benefits" thing, as it rarely works out. Almost always one of the "friends" develops too many feelings for the other person and it ends with someone getting hurt.

    I think it's time to put an end to this relationship. You know it's not the type of relationship you're looking for, so move on and find someone who's interested in you.
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