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    jesusoreilly Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 2, 2009, 08:57 PM
    Going on first date ever, any thoughts to consider?
    So I'm going on my first ever 'date'.

    We don't really have 'dating' here, usually just getting hammered and ending up with someone, hence it being my first. It's also her first date too. I've known her for a while, and she said yeah when I asked her.

    We're going to an exhibition type thingy.

    Anyone got any major do's or dont's for me?

    Like I almost don't know what to do when I meet her, how long it should last, should I make other plans for later, whether I should pay for stuff, whether we should go for a drink after, or maybe during?

    Or should I just not worry about that stuff at all and just get on with it?

    Any advice much appreciated.

    Cheers,

    Jesus
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    Just Dahlia Posts: 2,155, Reputation: 445
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    Dec 2, 2009, 11:07 PM
    Jesus, just relax and play it by ear. Be yourself and be polite, be a gentleman:)

    Maybe you will have a great time and want to ask her out again and maybe you won't, but as long as you are your true self, there won't be any misunderstandings in the future.

    Good luck and have fun!:D
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    Dec 3, 2009, 08:34 AM

    Do you like her enough to want her to become your girlfriend? I would assume you do at least a litle or you wouldn't have asked her out. Open doors for her but nothing over the top. I.e. if you have to knock her out of the way to open the door, then just let it go. Also, be happy to be out with her. Have a good time and let her know that you had a good time at the end of the date. Ask her questions about herself and opinions. Good luck and have fun!
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    Dec 3, 2009, 10:51 AM

    Be a polite gentleman, but don't come off as someone who is just into the "actions" of romance. For most people (especially women) romance doesn't just mean bringing flowers to the date, there is an emotional level too. This means not just trying to "charm" her into liking you, but getting to know her better. There are 5 different languages of love: physical touch, acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, and receiving gifts. While you should bring all of these to the table when you're dating, you should focus on each other's primary love language. You could give this girl an expensive bouquet of roses and be stunned when she gives a quiet, unenthusiastic thank you... Maybe what she really wanted was a hug, or a compliment. When you know what her love language is, you can express your feelings to her better, without making things awkward, and without stressing. Learn as much as you can about her, how she hears love and how she speaks love, this way you can just go with the flow.
    (It's a good idea for you to find out what your love language is too.)
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    Dec 3, 2009, 11:05 AM

    There's a lot of good advice in the other posts,I just wanted to add, good manners, give her a compliment, I would say,go prepared to pay,and make sure she gets home safe...

    Enjoy yourself,be yourself,and don't get hammered!

    Oh,more more thing, she will probably be as nervous as you!
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    Dec 5, 2009, 02:48 AM

    Do and Do not lists are kind of whacky-- in my opinion.

    I say let the whole thing flow naturally.


    Be yourself-- that's probably the best advice. If your going to be in a relationship with someone then may as well right?

    I'm not saying go burp in her face and catch your fart and tell her to smell it.

    Hope you have a good time!

    Relax ;) Dating is fun... and it gets better as the years go by.
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