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white-rose · Aug 29, 2008, 01:48 PM

I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I have friends but I'm not very sociable. Hes worse than I am. But I get SOO annoyed because girls will come up to us and completely ignore me and talk to him. I can't understand it. Hes attractive, but so am I in my opinion. He doesn't go out of his way to talk to girls they talk to him. Girls I have classes with or know, will talk to him but don't talk to me. For example today at school we were changing some classes, and this girl comes to him and asks him if he wants to go to a party. Completely ignores me and all eye contact. Then I went for a walk and I come back and these two whores I despise are all giggling laughing and talking to him. They said nothing to us when I was there. Everyone says we are the cutest couple and we are made to be together to me, including a lot of girls. But why the hell do they ignore me and talk to him? Guys don't talk to me as much because they're intimidated of my boyfriend of course. I just hate girls I know they're talking to him solely because he's attractive and he can't see it. They don't want to be friends with him, they want in his pants. Why do many girls ignore me, but talk to him?

BMI · Aug 29, 2008, 01:56 PM

Pretty obvious I'd say.

Girls being girls, if they like him they don't like you, easy as pie. In the man-world the same rules apply. ANY guy that is with a girl I've dated or that I'm interested in is automatically an enemy, we just don't like it. Same applies here.

Although, girls that are protective of their men do tend to rebel against ANY girl, whether their intentions are what you think of them or not. I once dated a girl like that, ANY girl from school that so much as said hi to me triggered the evil eye and a question and answer period. Perhaps they do not want in his pants, perhaps you just think they do?

Sounds as if any girl for whatever reason who speaks to your guy is judged and labelled a potential threat. I get it, but it's wrong. Lastly, I doubt your demeanor when girls are around your man is all cupcakes and lollipops, perhaps you do not notice but perhaps the other girls do. Your face probably tells them your thoughts before they even speak.

jrsg · Aug 29, 2008, 02:03 PM

Yeah, sounds like you are going out with a guy that half the school wants... So, you are an 'enemy' (as BMI said) to all those girls. Jealousy.

pixiquick2 · Aug 29, 2008, 02:24 PM

Originally Posted by white-rose

I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I have friends but I'm not very sociable. Hes worse than I am. But I get SOO annoyed because girls will come up to us and completely ignore me and talk to him. I can't understand it. Hes attractive, but so am I in my opinion. He doesn't go out of his way to talk to girls they talk to him. Girls I have classes with or know, will talk to him but don't talk to me. For example today at school we were changing some classes, and this girl comes to him and asks him if he wants to go to a party. Completely ignores me and all eye contact. Then I went for a walk and I come back and these two whores I despise are all giggling laughing and talking to him. They said nothing to us when I was there. Everyone says we are the cutest couple and we are made to be together to me, including alot of girls. But why the hell do they ignore me and talk to him? Guys don't talk to me as much because they're intimidated of my boyfriend of course. I just hate girls I know they're talking to him solely because he's attractive and he can't see it. They don't want to be friends with him, they want in his pants. Why do many girls ignore me, but talk to him?

Girls are catty!! Try not to let it get to you! Try to talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel. He is the one with the obligation to you... Not the other girls.If he cares more about you than he dose the other girls he shouldn't have a problem doing what ever it takes to make you feel special, important, o.k. with the situation. If not he's not worth your time!! JUST REMEMBER DON'T BE A DRAMA QUEEN, take a step back and look and the situation, make sure your not making it in to more than it really is!! GOOD LUCK!!

white-rose · Aug 29, 2008, 02:24 PM

I sound very angry in this post, because I am! I have a good boyfriend who doesn't even look twice at other girls. It just seems as if they are always trying to converse with him one way or another. I am almost done of high school and I really hope it gets better even though I doubt it. It kind of makes me feel bad too because when I'm with him guys don't talk to me. Sometimes it makes me feel like he's too good for me, that's why girls are always trying to be friends with him, and not many guys try to be friends with me.
What else am I supposed to think when a girl I know doesn't want to be friends with me, but want to be friends with him? I am automatically going to assume she's trying to get with him.

white-rose · Aug 29, 2008, 02:29 PM

Originally Posted by BMI

Pretty obvious I'd say.

Girls being girls, if they like him they don't like you, easy as pie. In the man-world the same rules apply. ANY guy that is with a girl I've dated or that i'm interested in is automatically an enemy, we just don't like it. Same applies here.

Although, girls that are protective of their men do tend to rebel against ANY girl, whether their intentions are what you think of them or not. I once dated a girl like that, ANY girl from school that so much as said hi to me triggered the evil eye and a question and answer period. Perhaps they do not want in his pants, perhaps you just think they do?

Sounds as if any girl for whatever reason who speaks to your guy is judged and labelled a potential threat. I get it, but it's wrong. Lastly, I doubt your demeanor when girls are around your man is all cupcakes and lollipops, perhaps you do not notice but perhaps the other girls do. Your face probably tells them your thoughts before they even speak.

Its true I don't like when other girls talk to him AT ALL. He says its because I'm insecure but that's not why! Its just that its insulting when they ignore me and talk to him. If they honestly wanted to be friends with him, they could at least be on good terms with me too. Like say hi, or attempt to be friendly with both of us. Rarely.

JBeaucaire · Aug 29, 2008, 02:37 PM

They don't talk to you because they aren't after you. You are in the way. You are the competition. It's called "passive aggression"... a way of hurting someone without actually doing much of anything, rather specifically NOT doing things in a blatant way.

Don't fret it. It's natural. Best they ignore you than talk to you and start an actual confrontation.

There's nothing to stop you from talking to your guy OVER them. Even while they are talking you just walk up and start talking like they aren't there. YOU be the one not looking at them and not talking to them. Don't stand there waiting for them to "be done" talking to your guy. Just take him away ignoring them the whole time, even if they are in the middle of saying something.

BTW, make sure you don't put this on your guy in any way. He's flattered by it all. Just handle it yourself and be confident.

SweetDee · Aug 29, 2008, 02:48 PM

I think that since you already stated that you think you're nice looking... it's CLEARLY an added "thumbs down" to the girls whom may be competing for your boyfriend. As well as the fact that they may very well SEE how uptight you're getting. Girls LOVE LOVE LOVE drama, I hope you can remember that. I was a very popular girl beginning the freshman year till senior and I had a lot of this kind of thing happening every time I snagged the hottie. Especially if he wasn't a typical popular football jock-type. The cuties that didn't know they were cuties were the BEST. Enjoy this handsome dude and be the sexy girl on his arm who has it all... and everyone can just go kiss your *ss! If you show your weakness you'll just lose and those b*tches will see it and win it. "Never let 'em see you sweat". Sweetie, it's a game...

rockchick182 · Aug 29, 2008, 02:49 PM

I have had that happen to me. It's pretty simple. They are jealous. They just won't admit it. They wish they had your boyfriend and are trying to get at him, just don't let them. As long as they talk to you as well that will be fine, but don't let them ignore you.

white-rose · Aug 29, 2008, 03:15 PM

Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

They don't talk to you because they aren't after you. You are in the way. You are the competition. It's called "passive aggression"...a way of hurting someone without actually doing much of anything, rather specifically NOT doing things in a blatant way.

Don't fret it. It's natural. Best they ignore you than talk to you and start an actual confrontation.

There's nothing to stop you from talking to your guy OVER them. Even while they are talking you just walk up and start talking like they aren't there. YOU be the one not looking at them and not talking to them. Don't stand there waiting for them to "be done" talking to your guy. Just take him away ignoring them the whole time, even if they are in the middle of saying something.

BTW, make sure you don't put this on your guy in any way. He's flattered by it all. Just handle it yourself and be confident.

You are right! Why the hell should I sit there and wait for them to be done talking to my man? I am his girlfriend and he wouldn't be with me if he wanted them lol. I know its not his fault.

hjpan · Aug 29, 2008, 03:48 PM

Survival of the fittest.

Females need to find a suitable partner... but he is taken =]

N0help4u · Aug 30, 2008, 12:08 PM

Sounds like he is popular and they are not going to just quit talking to him or even start to talk to you. You need to get and have a really good strong relationship with him. Do not give him negative reasons such as jealousy and hurt. Maybe try getting in the conversation but not in a pushy way or controlling way. Something like, "Oh yeah we really like that too" Or "We were planning on something like that ourselves''