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dunnowhyimhere · Apr 3, 2012, 09:51 PM

We've been together for 8 months. Already she's my best friend, couldn't ask for a better love. We've got a lot in common, she's also going to be attending college but she's not going just yet. A couple days ago, I got the "I need my alone time" speech, yeah I understand, but who doesn't seriously have alone time these days? I mean, tell everyone to bug off and do what you want to do right? Now she wants to spend LESS time together, even specifying how many days of the week I will get to see her, and saying that she'll stay with me over every other weekend. She says it's because I'm overwhelming her yet, her grandmother barely lets me see her in the first place. Her father will barely allow me to see her at all in the first place..

All I want in life is to start one with someone I care about more then my own family, I found her but she's not giving me the time of day to prove it. What can I do?

Homegirl 50 · Apr 4, 2012, 12:05 AM

Maybe she is feeling smothered. You sound pretty intense "All I want in life is to start one with someone I care about more then my own family, I found her but she's not giving me the time of day to prove it".

Give her what she wants or you risk really driving her away. 8 months is not a long time, she may not need to be with you as much as seem to need to be with her.

TormentedSoul · Apr 4, 2012, 02:13 AM

I agree with the previous poster and this is coming from someone who used to be like you. I had a rough family life growing up and I latched on to my first love and surely made her feel smothered. Not only did it cost me the relationship, but it caused me to spend the rest of my time holding something back from all of my relationships. Spend some more time with your friends and if you don't have that many, make some new ones. In short, expand your support system now before you get older and develop habits of shutting people out.