Hello everyone...

I have had a girldriend for almost 4 months. She is asian and very romantic. She has very complex ideas about how a boyfriend should be since her culture is know for very romantic and sensible boyfriends. On the other hand, I'm a kind of cold and unsensible person. She always complains about that, and fights me very often because of it.

At the beginning, she had another boyfriend, who was much more romantic than me. Anyway, the guy left and she broke up eventually. Thenm she ask me to be her boyfriends, saying she was feeling alone and that "noene takes care of her." I liked her before then so I said yes... why not. The first 3 weeks I really didn't want to continues with the relationship, but eventually I fall for her, very badly. I became obssesed with her and just think of her all the time. It was the first time this happened to me; actually, she is my second girlfriend, but I never lover the first one, so this is the first time I feel love for someone.

She is very good as girlfriend. Gives me a lot of attention, cooks for me, likes sex a lot! is very interesting person and pretty.

We did OK for the first 3 months, but after that things started to deteriorate. My period of thinking of her suddenly ended and I was becoming seriouly cold. She starts to gight over everything if I'm not romantic. Like.. we go to a restaurant to celebrate 3 months and she wanted to buy a cake... so she gest mad.

Last week she got the results from a very important course she is taking and it turns out she failed. Since then things have been going even worse, she wants to break up all the time. She ussually says: "you dont need me," "I dont love you," "please go," And I've learnt just to hear what she says. I just listen and then convince her she is just altered and then we are OK, for a while. Moreover, If I actually leave, she stops me on the way, and then ask me hug her or something. This all begun after we had a fight, I said I was dissapinted at her and I almost break up. Later that day, we were OK, but I dodnt want to have sex and she began with the "we break up" again.

So.. what I feel is that she is like a child looking for attention. I think I can keep this going on forever, I can always fix things and after she passes the course thing will be better, But she treats me very badly, hurts me a lot many times. Then she compensates with food or time, but then fight again. I feel like a rubber band, and she is pulling me back and forth to see how much I can last. Eventually I will not be able to hold on.

I really love her a lot, I feel like we are one single being, and I cannot just be myself again, I've lost my own identity. But, she is driving me crazy. I don't know what to do, I would rather be like this instead of being away from her. But I'm afraid she will find aontehr way to hurt me and I will end up with a broken heart. I believe she needs a lot of love from men, more than I can provide with the little time have.

So, does she still love me? Does she just wants to receive love? Can I do something? Should I leave her?

Thanks!

I'd hate to say this... but she's... crazy. Yeah. You got to leave that relationship... pronto. Mainly because it doesn't get any better from there.