Hi everyone, I've recently been reviewing all the postings about breaking up and stuff and I feel that they were helpful except I have a little bit different of a situation. 2 weeks ago I sensed that something wasn't right in our relationship and my g-friend seemed to loose interest in me. She has had back problems and a stressful job so she always wanted to go to bed early- I don't think that was because of me, but anyway I've been hanging out with her at her parents house where she lives almost every day, I think our relationship was getting too monotonous and boring for her and I was too nice of a boyfriend. I initiated the breakup by asking her if she wanted to take a break and she said that was what she wanted so we went on what I thought was just going to be a break for a week or two after 2.5 years of dating since hight school. Looking back I would never have done this because I believe that I showed that I wanted to break up with her when I was only afraid that she was going to do it first and I did realize that we needed some time apart but not for long.
Turns out I still love her dearly and I went over to her house a week into the break to chill with her bro who is my age but really I wanted to see her. We talked about how we felt briefly and I said that I really missed her. Anyway she said she needed time yet to see how she felf and that she didn't miss me yet. At this point I should've left her alone for a long time so she could sort through all of the baggage in her head. Later that evening she left to hang out with friends and I acted like the jealous guy- big mistake. I looked through her phone and checked some text messages which she got mad about so I thought then that she was cheating on me. Then I left her house and told her I'd meet her at the party with her friends- mistake again! She didn't want me there and when I showed up where they were getting ready to leave I realized the best thing was to leave her alone for a while, but I also broke up with her because I didn't want to be the one broken up with if she wanted to break up with me. I guess I should have just given her her space. Then the next morning she texted me telling me that it was over- I guess she wanted to have the power back or something- truth is I never wanted to break up with my sweetheart and I don't know how or even if I should tell her this quite yet, but I also feel that if I don't tell her she will think I don't love her anymore and move on. Her friend has told me she likes another guy who she works with which I don't think I believe that since she always told me what a pothead he was and he is 12 years older than her. I know that deep down she still loves me and will eventually come back because if I give her space and time to figure it out. I just need to hang out with my friends and get out more. I wish I could figure out how to stop thinking about her right now because I keep thinking about the romantic valentine's day we had just a month ago and now its come to this. Please help:)

I think you're right, she needs space right now. It sounds like you are sure of your feelings for her but she might have some confusion about how she feels. If you give her space to work it out, she might come to miss you like you did, but if you hang around she'll probably start to resent you.
As for how to stop thinking about her, I understand I'm in a bit of a similar situation. I'd just try to keep myself as busy as possible. Go out with your other friends a lot, tell them you need help being distracted.
Good luck!

If she really likes you and this guy is just a "thing . Let her do it its better to have it out of her system and you know about it.than a secret affair

Did you two get back together? Or move one?