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    shanestrips Posts: 10, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:43 PM
    Getting rejected after you thought she was interested.
    Ok so, il try to keep it short.
    but the back story is I walk into class on day 1 and see this hot blonde chick.
    she gives me the eye and I sit behind her, she then turns around to look at me for half a second. So I'm thinking , sweet, this girl is attracted to me.
    now, weeks pass by and we play the eye game , without ever talking to each other.

    then about 5 weeks after the 1st class, I see her in the library and make my move.
    we chat about random stuff etc etc things are going well. She takes some notes from me from missing last class and thanks me and we part ways. I was thinking sweet I finally broke the ice. Now I've always been really shy and have low self esteem because of an abusive father. But I've always got some attention from girls because I guess they think I'm somewhat attractive. My problem is always getting past the initial attraction lol.

    so anyway, 3-4 more weeks pass by and we keep this small talk thing in class, hi- bye- how's life, etc etc. nothing too personal.

    finally I feel like my time is running out and I need to ask her out or for her number or somehting. Up till now all signs point to her being interested.
    so today, the 2nd last week of class, we had a nice little conv at the begning of class.
    then at the end of class, eveyrones kind of leaving and she's laggin behind and I wait for her and I ask her, "hey (name) , i was just wondring if i coudl take your number down in case i need some help with the course". I know, looking back it wasn't the smoothest line..

    but I really hated the feeling I got the weeks before from seeing her and leaving without asking her anything. So I forced myself this week but it totally backfired.

    she gives me this totally weird look, and she's looking at my fone which I was holding in my hand (which I know was also a very non smooth move). And she says "im not exaclty the person to ask for help" in kind of a laughish tone. So I say "hehe well i think you did a lil beter than me on the midterm, plus im not sure if il b here next week so.." (which was true, as a side not this girl seemd very studious and serious about her , and I am like very opposite and I think she sensed that, duno if that had to do with it)

    so then she says "well, do you want my notes? il give you my notes from next week"
    so at this point I was like this chick totally just shot me down.
    so I said "ok well ya maybe, bye" . "bye"

    and I walked out as fast as I could. I know this is prety lame rite? I feel prety depressed right now. I keep finding one girl and I go for her and she either rejects me or some gets ed up somewhere along the way. I guess I just don't have this "thing" I need to get women. Likely because I never really put much effort into women when I was in high school or for the first 5 years of my university. (im in my final, 6th year).

    so yea bottom line is I haven't been laid in 1.5 yrs+ and its really ing getting to me.
    I think somehow this chik sensed that I was off somewhere. But for sure she was into me the first weeks, she kept eye fu**ing me.

    so yea, please shed some light on what you thnk I should do next week, and what you think I did wrong. Is it possible I still have a chance with this chick? p.s. don't even know if she has a boyfriend.

    thankx
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:50 PM

    Here is a wacky idea... how about actually asking her out instead of that lame excuse you used to get her number! If she says no then you know for a fact she isn't interested. You have to be more upfront about this. Hiding behind some weak excuse just won't work.

    And don't wait so long to make your interests known. Seems like you sat on your hands for a LONG time and she might have lost any interest she initially had.
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:54 PM

    I agree with Mark, you waited too long.

    Also from the last feel lines you sounded really desperate, maybe she sense that as well...
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    Apr 1, 2009, 07:32 PM

    Well I thought that and I had asked a friend, who said girls like to be chased and you can't be too forward etc etc. so how do you know which route to take?
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    Apr 1, 2009, 07:53 PM

    How were you chasing?

    I thought when you chase, you're forward.

    IMO, you weren't chasing at all..
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    Apr 1, 2009, 08:04 PM

    I guess.. I just didn't want to show her that I was that interested right away. But I probably did take too much time, but I was just kind of letting things happen. I think I definitely ed up with today though, I should have asked her out like mark said.
    This blows
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    Apr 1, 2009, 08:24 PM

    Also, you think I have any chance left with her?
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    Apr 1, 2009, 10:44 PM

    Possibly if you play your cards right high school chicks are looking for a bad boy remember that that's what it sounds like this chick wants play mind games with her

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