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jw1975 · Mar 22, 2008, 04:10 AM

Hi, I went on a first date with a girl who I met a few weeks earlier, now she lives a bit of a distance from me because of her job (police) she also transferring nearer where I live because her friends are up here. The date went great, to the point of her asking if I would like to see her again and would I like to kiss her. Which I responded with yeah, she then got in touch saying she had a great time and asked did I enjoy the night, then we left it at that. A day or so later I told her I would like to see her again but understand her job, she replied she defo wanted to see me again and is back in the area the following week so we should meet up. Two days before the date she cancelled because there was a major incident at work she went into detail about what happened and had to go in and said she hoped we can sort another time out? A bit disappointed I said no probs we will sort something out another time. We have spoke this week and she's working all weekend.Also she keeps asking me have I told my friends about her and have I told my mother about her, never been asked this before. Im just wondering if anyone can shed any light on what to do? Sorry its long.

N0help4u · Mar 22, 2008, 11:54 AM

Keep communicating with her and let her know you are interested in seeing her again.
If you can't handle that her work may cancel out a lot of things maybe it is better to quit seeing her cause they say it is hard being married to a police officer --meaning their schedule and never knowing if something awful happened to them

jw1975 · Mar 25, 2008, 11:35 PM

Hi, I recently taken a girl out on a date, she's in the middle of a divorce.which went great. To the point of her asking do I want to see her again and do I want to kiss her. I responded with yes to both these questions and was looking forward to the next date. We arranged to meet up the next week and with a day to go she had to cancel. Her job has her on call (police) so if she gets called in she has to go but said hope we can sort out another time? Keeping in mind she does live an hour away. We have been in touch again about rearranging but her jobs a bit of a problem so she can't make anything concrete but she said said she really wants to see me again. She is also getting a transfer closer due to her friends being up here. Also she keeps asking what have I told my mother about her and what did she say which I find strange. The other day I told her I thought she was stunning which she is. Now she has told me that she's all over the place with her divorce and she's not being fair to me, I totally understand this. And she doesn't want to stop me from seeing anyone else.But she says she wants to stay in touch because she had a really good time when we went out.
What should I do next?

MrChevvy57 · Mar 26, 2008, 12:00 AM

Hey Buddy, it seems to me that she has commitment issues. You've told her how you feel about her and now she's pushing you away, I had this happen to me about 8 years ago. She told me that she was really comfortable and next week we were finished.
The best thing to do is tell her you have been seeing other people the whole time you 2 have known each other(see what sort of reaction you get from her).
If she says that's great and doesn't look to pissed off, then you'll know she had no feelings other than friendship towards you. If she looks pissed well then you play hard to get and let her chase you.
You've been there for her, now see if she'll be there for you.
Goodluck dude.