I already filled out the survey and have actually been matched up with several people. It's very hard for me to meet women in person so I think something like this would be to my benefit. I haven't actually become a member yet. I was just wanting to know from people who have used the service whether your experience was good or not. Thanks.

The only thing you need to make a service like eHarmony effective is common sense. It doesn't matter HOW you end up face to face with dating prospects, so eHarmony is as good a way as any. But the needs won't change just because you used a matchmaker.

There must be some chemistry in BOTH directions when you meet.
There must be a prolonged period of dedicated dating where you see of the chemistry can turn into compatibility.
You have to have things in your lives (other than your dates) that you admire in each other.

If all that happens, you proceed normally. EHarmony is a way to skip the awkward "will they go out with me" step, but that is all. Every single bit of the process after that is still your responsibility.

Don't be a nutjob, don't pressure, do things normally. You'll be fine.

Any dating service, eharmony, Yahoo personal, or some of the others, all take both sides being honest ( which is part of the main problem with them)

You may meet all sorts of nut cases ( I know I have) but you will also find some nice people,

A lot depends on what you are wanting out of it

EHarmony isn't a scam. But shutting down your account may have been the right choice for you.

My 29yo daughter decided to join eharmony at the end of Oct 2011. She has her own business and home, works 60-70 hours a week and just didn't have the time to constantly go out meeting people. She wasn't interested in the pub/club scene, she said they 'seemed to be just pick up joints for one night stands'.

About 20 'matches' came in, in the first 48 hours, however that ended up being 2 possibles. Of those 2 guys, she communicated and went out with one, and they have now developed a good relationship and have many things in common. It's now the end of November, and they have organised a camping trip with friends from both sides! They have many of the same interests, morals, values and work ethics so at this stage I would have to say it is possible to meet a compatible partner on eharmony.

When she first joined a month ago, she received communication from most of the 'matches'. My advice to her was - you have posted your photos and put yourself out there, if the guy has not posted his photos,
archive and close the match immediately. It only works both ways and why should you have to ask a guy
to post his photo so you know who you are talking to.

She has now put her eharmony membership on hold, and even though she paid just over $200, she says it has been worth the investment.

Just one complaint to eharmony though. The day she put her membership on hold, there was a match from a 35yo guy. His answer to 'what are you looking for in a partner' was 'anything will do'. To the question 'anything you want to tell your matches' answer was 'nope'. 'What are your interests' answer was 'sex sex sex'. As my daughter said, a female who has paid her money and who received this type of match would be pretty peed off, you can meet that sort of ferel bogon at a pub for free !