This is probably a question for the guys, simply because I'm trying to figure out what guys seek in a woman, but I'm asking it to everyone because good advice is great advice.

Present Scenerio: So, a guy chose another girl over me, and I'm doing rather well nowadays since it was kind of a shock. There is currently another guy who interests me. The thing is I'm chubby and the previous guy never made me feel like I was chubby. He said that he didn't like girls who were slim...

Well, the girl that he's with now is super small compared to me. My question is if "chubby-ness" matters to guys. I really like this new guy, but I can't help but keep wondering if he'd reject me just because of my size. He goes to the gym a lot.

Does size really matter? Well, not penis size, but the size of a woman? If she's chubby, does that turn you away? I work out when I can, but I'm definately not slim...

Just for the record, I'm about 5'9 at 220 pounds... This isn't a singles ad. I'm just trying to make things clearer.

This is something that has been asked before, but I think you ask it in a good way. Physical appearance does matter, but what one person finds attractive will vary to the next. I wouldn't worry too much about this guy, if he didn't like you just because of your size, that is his loss. I myself go to the gym just about everyday, but wouldn't say a "chubby gril" would be out of the question just because of that. Guys, just like girls like CONFIDENCE... not cocky... condifent. Be comforitable with who you are, and don't be ashamed of that. Rejection is part of life, even for non-chubby people. I see all kinds of guys with all kinds of girls all the time, so I don't think any one answer is the right one here. Personally, I find that the chubby girls typically have better personalities, but I do find myself going for the smaller girls. I myself am not a very big guy though 6" 175, and have always gone for short, petite women. Alot can be said about the way both sexes choose someone. Girls go for the buff jerks all the time too, so I don't think this is really a "guys only" type thing. Society puts this ideal image of a mate in our heads, and a lot of times we fall into that trap. Trust me, you don't want a guy that is just into you for your body anyway.

jeffatl is right in that modern day media, movies, celebrities, pop culture and what not put images in our heads of what is "attractive" and what isn't. This isn't to say that no one will find chubby people attractive, it just means you might not be put on a poster at a fashion show (all those girls are like skewers anyway lol)
A lot of guys are shallow, and won't look any furthur if he doesn't like what he see's after the first 5 seconds, and a lot of guys will admit that they are shallow. But not everyone is. It just depends on the guy
Hope this helped

Hello b:

Only to the skinny ones.

excon

Not sure where you live, but if you live in the US, I have what I call the "Walmart" reality check. Go sit in a chair by the door of walmart for a while. You will see the most fat men and women, men and women with no teeeth, and so on. Guess what each and everyone normally has a partner, it is not always the ouside but it is the inside of the person that is important.

Some people like skinny, some like chubby, and some like real heavy,

I love "chubby girls" as you put it, I think that women with curves are very sexy and it makes them individual. It's nice to have something to feel and run your hands over. I myself am a "chubby girl" as is my girlfriend. I love her body, every time I see her I just want to cuddle her.

Big women with confidence as was said above, is VERY sexy! If you love yourself (not in the big headed way) then other people will see this shine through and it is very attractive!

Good morning boulotdodo...
I am so glad you asked this question, in this manner. You know why? Because I think a lot of young women feel and wonder the same thing. I think the quick answer to your question, that most would give, is yes. If you are thin you will be seen as sexier. Than you have the flip side to this as we see it on television, in new shows, featuring full women who love their bodies.

That's where I want to focus on. Let me start with a short story (I promise I will try to keep it short) I'm 5'11 about a year after my daughter was born (she's now almost 8 years old) I had 'let myself go' if that's what you call it and I wore a size 14. However, I didn't feel like a 14, nor would anyone have guessed I was. You know why? Because of several things. 1, I didn't feel a size 14. I couldn't tell you what size I felt because I was comfortable with my body and if 14 was considered fat, I didn't get that memo. 2, I was married but still was 'hit on' often. Why? I was a 14! Because the image I put out there, the way I felt, not looked, I attracted. Does that make sense? 3, I didn't care what others thought of 14, 12, 10, or 8. I loved myself and it showed.

I also think if guys admit one weakness they have (no offense guys) they are not very good at guessing size or weight. You are quite tall for a girl so you are able to hide weight a lot easier than a girl 5'2 and believe me, I'm sure she's envious. Each of us are truly unique and I don't mean that to sound hokey. Try not to focus on a size or weight, but rather a feeling. The more comfortable you are with the shape you feel best in, you will begin to attract men of all shapes and sizes. As they will first and foremost be attracted to your confidence. Which is what you want!

I am a lot smaller now not just in size but weight and I feel different. However, I am at a different time in my life. The question has to get away from what guys like. Guys like girls who are confident in themselves and show it in all that they do. You have to love the way you look or others will know it and feel it. If you don't like the way you feel, make a change but make the change for you, not for others.

I promise you with all of my heart, as I believe it, if you find the shape you love and feel great in, you will attract just what you are looking for. Please remember it's not up to guys to tell you what looks good, as we all have our own opinions. It's up to what you feel great with, as that determines what you like and that IS what is most important.

Good luck finding your perfect shape!!

It's a matter of personal preference. Some guys like it and some don't.

If you base your life on what others say is beautiful, you will never be happy with who you are. Most people, like people who are healthy, and happy with who they are. There is nothing uglier, than a stuck up skinny beeyatch, who only is happy looking in the mirror. You think she will forget the makeup and hair, to play volley ball with me at the beach?? Now that's ugly.

I agree with everyone on here.

I am going to play a "pseudo devil's advocate" on a hypothetical here.

To some men weight is an indicator to some extent of a woman's mental and physical health. Now there are a lot of healthy people I would consider "chubby" but the reverse is alos true.

Some men may see that you don't care enough to taqke care of yourself and maybe you have some emotional problems and eat as a comfort. Some men, depending on age and intentions, will ask themselves if this is the woman and role model I want for my children.

Now I don't agree with what I just said. It is not how I feel, but I can sympathize with those who do. Do you think you and your weight are healthy and attractive? If so, find a guy who thinks the same. If not, maybe you should make yourself happy with you first.

I don't like skinny girls either, butI don't want her huffing and puffing when we climb the stadium stairs to get to the only seats I can afford ;-)

To each there own... and that is a two way street and a double standard cannot be applied.

WOuld you be attracted to a chubby guy?

It varies some guys are in to chubby girls some arnt
But the sexiest thing is when a girl thinks she looks good and is fine with herself
Now I'm not saying I like fat girls that wear thongs at the beach
Just a girl who is comfortable and eats because its NOT a crime
But still takes care of herself a little
The only problem really is if a guy isn't into chubby girls or just isn't sexually attracted to you but loves your personality it will be hard to create good chemistry in bed
So the best thing to do is just be comfortable with who you are even if you have to force it a little
Run around naked who cares
And if you personally want to lose a few pounds go for it but if not there's a million other guys
Its sexy and most guys will except you for who you are if you think like that
But you can't expect someone to except you when you don't except yourself

Well, the girl that he's with now is super small compared to me


I mostly dated chubby guys... I always found them more attractive. I liked a man with sum meat on his bones. Guess what? I marred a slender man, that I was madly and deeply in love with. Go figure. Like most have said it is all about the way a person is or in this case how good they can fool you.

Lol I must have been fooled because the slender hubby drives me mad with some of his bull crap. OK so he pi$$ed me off before he went to work this morning. Tonight, tomorrow I will truly love him again... ok my heart has already melted a little toward him. Lol... I've lost it.
But yeah... just because the old b.f. is dating a skinny girl now doesn't have to mean that your weight was a hidden issue, with him. Boloto, Don't make your past relationship cause you to doubt the next guy that is interested in you. Take people at face value for the most part... eventually their true colors will show.

I went out with your typical meathead for 3 years. I guess I am not chubby but the idea of spending hours at the gym makes me crave doublestuf oreos. He never seemed to have a problem with it, and he used to say stacked women were a turn off. Ahh.. such sweet words. Honey, if that guy doesn't like you for who you are right now.. it's not going to work in 30 years when everything goes south, you feel me?

well... for someone size does matter... hell... everyone think it matter... well at first... b.c let speak to yourself... deep inside... wouldnt you want to and talk to an attractive stranger ? Rather than an unatractive or chubby stranger ? No right ?

but it just at first... after we get to no pplz... what pplz looking for is personallity... and if the person that you seeing don't see that then they not worth it ^^...

I think it matters to a lot of guys. It matters to me, but I have met some chubby girls that are so fun and confident that it made me attracted to them. But on the first glance or meeting, most guys I know like the Hollywood curves.

I went out with a nice cutie once, and she had a limited conversation, that was a turn off, but what attracts you, is not as important, as what keeps you coming back for more.

Does chubby guys matter to girls?. to some, I guess.

I won't lie... I dated a girl that was 5'7" and weighed around 105 and wore a size 0... for about 3 years... so it might be a little weird if the next girl I date is a bit chubby, but that doesn't mean she'll be unattractive. I just won't be used to it.

Chubbiness comes and goes...

Not at all does it matter being chubby or not. What you really want is a guy who likes you for who you are, not just for your looks. Confidence is the key to feeling sexy.
I don't know about anywhere else, but I've spoken to many of my guy mates about whether size in a woman matters or not, and the genuine ones have all said they prefer a someone with "more meat than bone". There is nothing attractive about being skinny or having no curves. Being a woman means having a womanly figure. If this guy turns out to like you, you don't need to question whether size matters or not, because then the answer is clear. If he doesn't turn out to like you, move on. You want someone who will appreciate you either way:) Guys all have different tastes, and there are many different looking ladies around - so I guess everyone goes through the same thing with wondering whether a certain aspect of them looks good or not ! If he's worth it, he'll love you for who you are.

Guys are visual and need a good body to have sex with, so the majority prefer skinny girls. Girls can fall in love with chubby guys more easily because they are not sexually driven and are not as visual and like to have good conversations with good personality guys. This is from the primitive/earlier times, so its just naturally, how it is.

The media just reflects what the audience wants - which are skinny girls.

Guys prefer girls like this: rich girls, then pretty girls, then smart girls

So if you're rich or have extremely good looks to guys, then your weight wouldn't matter.

I cut out all the BS and tell it how it is

Well since you weigh more than me your fat, I'm 191 lbs. And hears why, as long as the girl I'm with weighs less than me she isn't fact, she may very well be an adorable chunkey monkey,but never fat. Yes I know I have problems.