Hi thank you actually he didn't lie about license I just found that out yesterday but yes your right I deserve better

You said that he said he had a company truck. That means he lied. No company will allow an unlicensed driver to operate their vehicles because they would be legally and financially liable for anything he did while driving it. In fact their insurance would use that as a legitimate excuse to NOT pay any claims that arose.

Yes that's true but from what I understand he goes with someone from the company to work in the truck so I guess he doesn't drive it

What you said originally...


I stand by my opinion on this... this IMPLIES he drives, and also was a lame excuse for not having a car outside of Manhattan. I know some very poor people that own cars... and they make a mere fraction of what a plumber earns. So it was clearly deceptive, and a borderline flat out lie. He got caught and is trying to do the quick step, and you are trying to help him.

You are both adults... if you waste years on him before finding out he has substance abuse issues, a criminal past, and is a habitual liar, this will be on you, and not him, because its pretty clear to many of us right now and we don't even know him.

I've walked away from a couple women I dated in the past because they had issues with honesty (and maybe even reality). He has some of the same issues.

Stretching the truth, and being intentionally vague and evasive is really the same as telling lies....

Thank you everyone I try to be the good person but that's not good all the time yes I'm letting this go will answer his text that we should not continue this and than I'm
Done..

He lied. It may have been a lie of omission, but it's still a lie. He's being way too persistent in meeting someone he's only talked to for a few weeks. He wants to meet at night and doesn't understand why you'd be more comfortable meeting him during the day. This just all makes me uneasy, and I'm a pretty easygoing person that trust everyone she meets, online and off, so for me to be weary, that means you should be very very weary.

Lots and lots of danger signs flaring up with this guy. I'd write him a text telling him, nicely, that you don't feel comfortable meeting him, that you have a lot of concerns about him, and that a relationship with him is not something you want to pursue. Make it clear that you don't want further contact, and then wish him well. Be nice, but be firm, make sure it's very clear that you don't wish to have any further contact with him. After that, delete his info and hope that's the end of it. If he continues to bother you start documenting everything. I'm serious. But no matter how much he contacts you after you tell him you're done, do not respond back to him. If he doesn't stop (and I'm getting way ahead of myself here, but need to say this because I've been there), then you have to contact the police. Save every message he sends after you call it quits, and document everything.

Hopefully you telling him you're out will be enough. Crossing my fingers that's what happens.

Good luck.

Thank you and he doesn't have a car and wants me to pick him up first time I meet him.

Hi I wanted to update everyone I found out he does not have a license due to losing it for a year because stopped by a cop when he was drinking.