I am writing this question in the hope of getting an answer, I already know what I need to do but I need reassurance. I was in a so-called relationship with this guy who m is gay, I am also gay. We were in a relationship for approximately 6 months or so. We were together almost everyday and then I starting losing focus on other things in my life which included: Family work and other personal relationships. It seems now that this person was only around when I had something or they needed something. Also I have to admit that this person did help me out with several family issues at the time. We would talk about things that were going on in my life and it was hard for me to go home because of the stress and other issues as well. Anyway to make a longer story even longer, I have not physically seen this person in two weeks but they have called a few times during this time. This person new that I was in love with them and felt that they were pulling me down, so they stated that they gave me time to get myself and my life together, this has some truth to it but I believe there are other motives. Anyway I have applied for other jobs and has been accepted to graduate school which I start in January 2008. I felt that I was in love with this person but now I realize that I attatched myself to this person because it was a much needed distraction, I do know that this person cared about me to a point because I wouldn't eat or drink anything and they would make me drink by saying if you loved me you would do this. Do u think that this person cared at all about me, I do know that I don't want to and can't be around this person anymore because they have nothing to offer me, they don't work or have a place of their own, am I making the right decision, I think I am, please help.

I can't believe no one has answered you! I see you posted this in November... are you still having the same dilemna? I hope you've resolved it by saying goodbye, at least for now, to that person. Gay or Straight, it doesn't matter... If someone loves you, they don't just give you a call once in awhile in a few weeks. They want to be around you and can't get enough of you, especially in the beginning of forming your relationship.

My biggest concern is why you were not eating or drinking anything, and you left it up to someone else to tell you that if you loved them that you would? You need to take care of yourself and not reley on others. At the end of the day, the only person that is guaranteed to be there for YOU is YOU!

I sure hope you made the right choice... but you knew what it was already, didn't you?! :)