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    Rize Posts: 102, Reputation: 9
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    Dec 31, 2009, 10:44 AM
    Confused about the situation
    Hello again, I need some good advice, this may sound sort of redundant from the previous question but it's a little different and I need some good advice please :(
    So I kept talking to the 20 year and me 17, and he seemed really into me and we haven't hung out in a couple of weeks due to the snow storm etc. And I went out of town during Christmas break we didn't text much and on the ride back he seemed eager for me to reach home so we can hang out but I've been home its been a few days he hasn't texted and for someone so eager to hang out... We haven't. He usually texts me everyday and he hasn't over the holidays except once and he didn't reply to my response so I've texted him trying not to be or sound clingy because its not like were together trying th get him to talk. I was so doubtful about his feelings but he seemed flirty still so on the ride back when I texted him he was really eager and flirty so I knew I could expect a goodmorning text or something like that the next day and well... I got nothing. So a couple days passed and it seemed weird that he hasn't and usually if he's busy, he is. He's really into his activities and sports. Okie so I'm the one who's been texting him more now and I can't understand why he doesn't want to anymore himself. So I finnaly decidedto text him this morning and he's like hey sweetie which surprised me cause he seemed like nothing happened and than he hasn't responded yet I think he said he was taking his mom to the store. What does this mean? Should I make the first move and I don't think I'm ready to say it completely and ask him because I'm just not sure anymore and I can't at a time like this. What should I do? Make the first move? Keep distance? What do you think he means by this? I know I sound paranoid and I'm overanalyzing but this is the first time I really liked someone since like February which was one of the most painful relationship break ups I have been through. There have been other guys but I wasn't all that into them like this guy. I hate rejection and I hate not knowing where I stand and with this new found confusion I don't know if it's the right ims to ask him directly because I just feel pathetic and clingy. Is it just because we haven't Hung out for a while? Butte hasn't askede and I don't want to bring it up again. I said I missed him after the hey sweetie today and he didn't say he missed me back or anything. I don't mind moving on but I just don't like knowing I didn't try my best because I like him. Explain this to me please and tell me what I should do. He can be so freedom loving etc but even though were a little different why lead me on? I figure that might be it I don't know... :(
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    Dec 31, 2009, 11:10 AM

    He doesn't sound interested. Some people are really nice in person... and flirtatious, but it doesn't mean that they are interested in a relationship. It is confusing, if you let your emotions get in the way, but after a while, you can learn to recognize when this is happening.
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    Jan 2, 2010, 02:56 PM

    One of the biggest reason why relationships end up in ruins is because people do not get to know the person before they begin a relationship. This is probably why you've been through so many guys and so much heartbreak. Why don't you learn from your past mistakes, instead of jumping into the idea that you might begin, yet another, relationship. Take a step back, be cautious. Don't read too far into this guy's words or acitons. You say that you have feelings for the guy, but when you start a relationship on mere feelings, and no friendship, common ground, and hardly any knowledge of the person, your relationship is based on just that: mere feelings, and it won't get far before it crashes and burns.
    Be careful this time around. Keep your distance, and just be friendly until you know the guy better.
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    Jan 3, 2010, 01:18 PM

    Hey, thanks again!
    That's exactly what I'm doing now just maintaining distance and if he wants to talk let him message me and just be casual and friendly no hard feelings nothing. I guess it just sux to have gotten that attention from him before and to think it was going somewhere only to realize its not. I can't help but feel sort of responsible that maybe I texted him when I shouldn't have, because he'd want text me everyday but its whatever. Whatever happens, happens I guess. Too bad he has a fantastic personality.
    Whenever he does text me its always hey sweetheart or something like that, which always confuses me on his feelings because at least I don't think he's that big of a flirt in general to be doing that as something casual. But either way I don't think it will go anywhere whether he does have feelings or not so I guess its time to finnaly be responsible and just let go. He has been alott more busy going to more parties and we haven't hung out so that sums it up.
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    Jan 4, 2010, 12:37 PM

    In the early stages of a relationship, women and men like to cover up their negative qualities to make the other person think that they are someone they aren't. There's a good chance this guy is flirting to enchant and charm you.

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