I can't get over my ex, but am trying to move on - what do I do?
Asked Mar 5, 2007, 12:35 AM
A year ago my ex broke up with me. While I was with her, I knew she was a gem, I took her for granted though. After three years she asked where she saw us in 5 years, married or not.. . And I, being a guy (immature at that), kind of freaked out at the idea and said I didn't know and didn't plan that far ahead.
I continued acting the same way, and surprise, surpise - she broke up with me. I was shell-shocked.
After a few months she dated someone else briefly, that crushed me even more... I figured time to move on. I started dating someone else (but always thought of my ex). I care DEEPLY about the girl I am with now... I don't want to hurt her. But my ex had in the past few months talked to me about getting back together (she claims to be especially upset about me seeing someone new).
I declined for several reasons; spite and my current relationship, being top reasons. My ex and I always maintained contact and are in the same program in university. I literally think about her everyday and still kick myself when I think about how I could have been a better boyfriend, but at the same time hate myself for thinking all of this while being involved with such a loving girl (who I care for as well).
As of late, my ex and I are losing touch, we will be finished university this year and I am afraid that I will lose her forever! I am truly torn between choosing to pursue two great people, and I realize the selfishness in my ways.
I just do not want to live my life in regret, knowing I could have tried to make things work again with my first love, but at the same time I am too much of a coward to risk leaving the girl who I am currently seeing, and I especially don't want to hurt her because I feel like I'm starting to fall in love with her as well.
How do I decide what road to take before my heart rips itself apart or its too late??
Last edited by CliffARobinson; Aug 17, 2011 at 04:37 PM.