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    Jul 23, 2012, 11:25 PM
    Boyfriend problem!! HELP!
    I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years and lately I feel so different about him , like my feelings change because we start it growing as individuals . At first everything was perfect but now something inside of me tells me its not right about us but I can't leave him because I feel so bad because we been going out for so long and its going to be like a whole waist of time for both of us.. He has really change a lot with me and am not going to lie I have too with him ,but lately he doesn't call me he's always busy and tired and never has time for me he doesn't tell me I love you when he calls me or anything when we go out he doesn't hold my hand or gives me a kiss its like we are more like friends then a couple. Hes a really nice guy and nice family but maybe he's not the one for me I don't know what to think no more I'm sooo confused with all this I think about it every day what do I do. I always tell him that if he's not going to make any effort in our relationship I'm not either and it seems he doesn't care CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP MEE!
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    Jul 23, 2012, 11:52 PM
    I'm sorry to hear of your trouble. Sadly he is NOT the one for you! Relationships to tend to grow apart. I believe it is time you both go your separate ways.
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    Jul 24, 2012, 09:42 AM
    If your not feeling it, end it.
    How old are the two of you? It is not uncommon for you to grow out of each other especially if you started dating young.
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    Jul 24, 2012, 11:30 AM
    We actually start it going out really young we still young we are both 20 years old. He's always pressuring me to get married because he's afraid to lose me but I just don't feel like getting married this young especially if I'm not sure we are going to make it. I believe that we need to find ourselves first then we go to the next step on life.
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    Jul 24, 2012, 03:04 PM
    I think you are right.
    You are still young, you have a lot of exploring and living to do.
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    Jul 24, 2012, 10:25 PM
    My fam(Ily) is telling me to dump my boyfriend!
    The thing is that me and my boyfriend we being going out for 4 years already since I was 16 and now we both 20. Lately he has little to no contact with me, because he's always "busy". He's always expecting for me to call him and he don't call me .My family tells me that I'm waisting my time with him because he never takes me out I'm always home.. I don't go out with my friends because I lost contact with them because of him.He has been neglecting me.My mom told me that a guy that love their girlfriend as he says he does.. that he would always be around me and take good care of me etc make me happy.. but I feel bored and lonely. We only go out when ever he wants and only once a week and we just go out to eat... I think I'm waisting my young years just waiting for him. When ever he does something wrong or I try to brake it up.. their he comes he's at my house everyday with flowers chocolates and stuff trying to convense me to take him back.. which I do because I feel bad because he's a nice guy but he's not their for me when I need him. And after I take him back here we start again... what should I do any good advice?
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    Jul 25, 2012, 12:09 AM
    It sounds like he's already seeing someone else. And yes, you are wasting your young
    Years on him. Leave him now and re-connect with your friends. Friends are your lifeline
    And they will help you find happiness again. The guy is a loser and undeserving of your time.
    Are you in college? If so, meet a guy who shares your interests. If not, then maybe you should be. A good education will keep from having to depend on a man for financial support.
    Good luck to you.
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    Jul 25, 2012, 03:29 AM
    Sounds to me like you both are stuck in inertia. You devoted your life to him when you were too young and you both don't want to call it quits. But it also sounds like you are just going through the motions. Its time to end it.
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    Jul 25, 2012, 08:46 AM
    I merged these two threads. They are the same person. No need to start another thread.
    If you don't want to be in a relationship with this guy any longer, end it. It's your life, not his.
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