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    oliveoil89 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 11, 2013, 06:55 PM
    My boyfriend is jealous, possessive, controlling, angry, hits, and yells.
    When I first met my boyfriend, he was a relaxed, nice guy. He was the best. Took me to the coolest places and we hit it off immediately. When I started dating him, he was great. Then I got an interview to be a tutor at a university. He got an anxiety attack. Then, he would insist on driving me to work. So I thought it would be a great way to save gas. He would want to know whatever happened at work and with the athletes.

    Once we got through that, nothing much arose until our 6th month anniversary when he gave me an anxiety attack by starring at my phone while he drove as I wrote on Facebook. I lost it because he would always do that. He would ask me daily if creepies texted me. When we would get in arguments about his jealousy or something else, he would not let me leave. For instance, if I needed space and told him I wanted to go home. He would not leave. He would keep my car door open or take my phone. HE would follow me to the bathroom and would not leave me alone even though I told him to please give me space (this was after he once again was checking my phone because we had not talked in a while.) He would notice every thing that happened on my phone, accused me of cheating, interrogated me, accused me of hiding things. He would tell me a friend was not good and could get me in bad situations (if I mentioned hanging out with her.) He does not like my cousin or uncle for things that they have done in their life and their lifestyle. Has tried to convince me that visiting them would result in bad situations. He has hit things in anger, like his car, chair, or cushions on my couch, or my front door while I was holding it. Just recently, we were arguing and I was crying. He then yelled at me with all his rage and it scared me.

    There is so much more to write... what's wrong with him? :(
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    Homegirl 50 Posts: 10,792, Reputation: 2604
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    Dec 11, 2013, 07:13 PM
    He is jealous, possessive, controlling, angry,
    Why are you still with him? This kind of behavior only gets worse. Soon he will be hitting you.
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    odinn7 Posts: 7,691, Reputation: 1547
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    Dec 11, 2013, 09:26 PM
    Homegirl is right...the next step is him hitting you. You can do better.
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    Dec 12, 2013, 09:55 AM
    No question that you need to get this guy gone, but be careful in doing so. And by that I mean that he sounds like the type who might take out revenge in just about any way one can think of.
    I regret saying that and not having good advice on how you go about being careful. But if you were my sister and you lived in my state, I would be taking you to the nearest gun shop, then to the Sheriff's office to start the process for obtaining a carry permit.
    Maybe I am erring too far on the side of caution but I read so many reports of these type situations turning out very badly.
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    Oliver2011 Posts: 2,606, Reputation: 746
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    Dec 12, 2013, 10:50 AM
    Plain and simple - THAT ISN'T A BOYFRIEND. That is a person who needs to be out of your life.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,284, Reputation: 10853

    Dec 12, 2013, 12:49 PM
    He is an angry, control freak, and the longer he is in your life, the worse it gets. RUN, and tell everyone that you are running away fro him and ask for their protection and support.

    Bet everyone you know that knows of his actions has said the same thing, and you really should listen.

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