We've been dating for 18 months on and off long distance because some semesters we have together and there's one where he's home and I'm in school and that's where we are right now. Its been about a little over a month since I last saw him. We knew we were going to go 4 months without seeing each other but we still wanted to be together cause we had done long distance before. He hadn't been texting me as much as he usually did but I knew that he had gotten his knew job and was tired sometimes but he called me sometimes while driving home and always before going to bed. We did have text conversations throughout the day like always, he would tell me little random things and I would too, no biggie. I'm busy with school as well so its not like I'm texting him all the time.

One day we were talking about doing our little romantic getaway we like to do in spring break and he was telling me all these things we would do and stuff and this is in 3 months, 2 weeks had passed and it had gotten to the point by then that he seriously wouldn't text me unless I texted him and I started to notice it, he was acting to strange on the phone like if he hated me seriously, he was so cold with me. So I asked him do you even want to go on the trip anymore and he goes I don't know. I said that cause I was nostalgic. And so he's stopped talking to me little by little only says good morning now and sometimes calls to say goodnight. There's days where I text him and he seems okay but others he barely responds, I've told him all these things like I want to fix things and I'm sorry if I did something wrong but I want to start fresh and he doesn't even respond to one of them saying anything at all! Only one time I told him I never did anything to him and he said I know its me and then next time he tells me, I know its not fair, you think I like doing this? And like there were two times I didn't text him the whole day and he called me that night and sounded a little better and even said I love you before I even said it. He also responded I love you too when I texted him that yesterday but he just doesn't want to talk.

Do I give up? I don't want to. I just want to know if this is normal cause he did say in December he wasn't feeling good inside but he said no you know that its not about you. He failed two classes in college and they're for his major and feels down about it but I'm not sure what it is now. I feel like now its me and I want to salvage the relationship. He's always been blunt and honest and therefore if he wants to break up I don't know why he isn't doing it. :( help. I've tried telling him look babe its going to be fine, we're going to get through this but he won't respond to any of those things. The next morning he just sends me a good morning text with a smiley face like its all good but he won't talk to me at all the rest of the day. Even if I barely text him.

Welcome to the difficulties of Long Distance Relationships. Its so easy to take a partner having a bad day as a sign of the relationship being in trouble. Don't panic, nor let him going through a down day, make you over react and cause even more tension, and stress mostly on yourself, than its worth.

Stay cool, calm, and collected, and in control of your own feelings, and do not project your fear, or insecurity on him. He can't do anything about it if he is not there to see how you are affected. You know he is busy with school and his own performance, so don't distract him, or be unreasonable about him making you feel better, have your own activities, hobbies, friends, family, school, to keep you busy and engaged with things that make you happy, and CAN control.

LDR's are hard enough with out injecting them with a lot of fear, or stress over small things we make into big things.

If u love him then tell him tell him. And guys do this a lot they are kind of like girls they have their moments. Give him some time and tell him that you are here for him no matter what and you are here for him if he needs or wants to talk about it