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    j3llo93 Posts: 6, Reputation: 3
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    Oct 24, 2011, 03:34 AM
    Am I being unreasonable and if I am can you help? Any advice?
    Well first off some background information.

    Me - female, asian, 18. Mostly attracted to females.
    Her - female, half-asian half-white, 17. Not attracted to females.

    We have been dating for almost six months so far and everything is going great! But once in a while I will get this huge feeling of insecurity. So much that sometimes I can't even sleep at night! It's not her fault... it's not like she flirts with guys or even talks with them much.

    What worries me is her past. In her past she's mainly been interested in African American males or white males. And her two ex boyfriends were both younger than her. She had this intense crush/obsession/infatuation whatever on this other African American male who was younger than her AND who was a complete stranger which I was disappointed with. But whatever, that's not the point.

    The point is, can you guys understand my insecurity or am I being unreasonable? I mean, look at me, FEMALE, ASIAN, and older than her? I don't match any of what seems to be her pattern of crushes. So sometimes I worry at night. It seems to be a miracle that we're together now in the first place actually hahah.

    So any advice? Also, any advice to stop thinking about this one dumb skater guy with an obnoxious mohawk (the one she had intense feelings for ^ maybe two-three months before we started dating) and wanting to really beat him up? I honestly just want to erase any thoughts/memories of him.
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    AshleyShyrell Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 29, 2011, 07:33 PM
    I thin its exactly that. Insecurity. Because it is not the regular pattern it feels, like any minute she is going to say "it was fun" then go hold hands with one of the males. I think dating a woman is something new and exciting for her. As we age we continue to shock ourselves with the choices we make. I think that you should just enjoy what you have and ask her how she feels. Communication is key. Good luck with her!

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