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Jul 7, 2011, 01:00 AM
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I am 14 and from Canada,is it legal to date an 18 year old
I was wondring if it was legal to date a 18 year old boy, I'm 14 year old girl. We are both mature and not looking for any kind of intercourse
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Jul 7, 2011, 02:06 AM
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Dating is not illegal, but parents can stop you as your guardians, the people who are supporting you and thus get to tell you what you can and cannot do while they provide the roof over your head. If you did have sex, he can be charged as an adult. If adults even think you are having sex, they can make a lot of trouble for him, send him to jail, or just get a restraining order.
You will find out that young love is highly dependent on the circle of friends you are in, after the first blush of romance. The gap between 14 and 18 isn't evident to you yet, but it will be. 18 year olds who hang out with 14 year olds are considered usually to be guys who aren't getting on with adult responsibilities, and 14 year olds who hang out with 18 year olds are jailbait. You may be RELATIVELY mature at 14, but that's not saying much. Maturity rarely even occurs in the 20s, and in many ways it's lifelong.
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Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
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Jul 7, 2011, 03:09 AM
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Sorry, but an 18 yr old romantically interested in a 14 yr old is NOT mature. A mature 18 yr old would know that the two of you are at very different stages of your lives and that they don't mix.
As noted its not illegal to date, but ANY sexual activity could land him in jail. If your parents don't approve, he could land in jail by defying them.
So while its not illegal, it is wrong on many levels.
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Junior Member
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Jul 7, 2011, 07:49 PM
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Comment on joypulv's post
Thanks Your answer really helped
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Junior Member
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Jul 7, 2011, 07:53 PM
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Comment on ScottGem's post
There will not be any activity as I know now will get him in lots of trouble.
Thanks for your answer.
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Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
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Jul 8, 2011, 03:48 AM
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So you are still planning on dating him? Do your parents approve?
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Junior Member
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Jul 8, 2011, 10:24 AM
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Comment on ScottGem's post
Well the thing is I'm going back where I'm from witch is nova Scotia for the summer, and my parents are not coming with me I'm staying at a friends,and its just going to me a summer thing unless I move back, I know it sound stupid saying a summer thing and most people will thing fooling around and stuff but I know not to do that I will just hang out with him
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Junior Member
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Jul 8, 2011, 10:29 AM
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Comment on ScottGem's post
Sorry for the plenty of mistakes I meant to say "think" were fooling around
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Expert
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Jul 8, 2011, 10:34 AM
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Remember it is not just sex, but certain touching, some even though clothing from an adult to a minor can be various criminal charges.
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Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
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Jul 8, 2011, 11:05 AM
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So you are going behind your parent's back because they will not be supervising you? And you claim to be mature?
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Junior Member
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Jul 8, 2011, 11:30 AM
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Comment on ScottGem's post
No I never said I was going behind my parents back they know that we hang out and stuff and I do claim to be mature! And know there not going to be supervising me but they trust me and I'm obviously not willing to break there trust and my 19 year old brother will be always with me but he won't be staying at my friends he will be staying at his.
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Junior Member
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Jul 8, 2011, 11:33 AM
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Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
You I understand that the things that you mostly do with a boyfriend can not be done when one person is 18 and the other is 14 because he can be charged.
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Jul 9, 2011, 04:54 AM
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As you can tell by now, we here responding to you have been around the block many times. It isn't just knowing the laws and what protective and suspicious parents can do (and it doesn't have to be a parent who presses charges, teachers and any involved adult can). It's knowing about sex and desire. And it involves two of you. You may be able to say no, but there's no way you can tell us you know what feelings he is capable of curbing. At 18, his hormones are raging. Talking, touching, kissing, even holding hands, how will you know what the limits should be? You don't. That 'weak moment' happens all the time, and it can lead to a lifetime of tragedy.
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Junior Member
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Jul 9, 2011, 07:10 PM
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Comment on joypulv's post
How will I know Then?
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Ultra Member
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Aug 24, 2011, 06:37 PM
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You may be mature for your age, but you are not mature yet, if you were, then you should know that an 18 year old boy could only want intercourse with a 14 years old girl.
Good Luck,
Javi
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Expert
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Aug 24, 2011, 07:36 PM
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A "mature" 18 year old is not going to want to date a 14 year old, no matter how "mature" they are. And a 18 year will start to have sex thoughts as dating happens.
Also even if "sex" does not happen, there are other sexual assult issues, even touching sexual areas though the clothes could be an issue.
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Pets Expert
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Aug 24, 2011, 07:39 PM
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Every time someone mentions their maturity in a post, all I can think is "if you really are mature, you wouldn't have to mention it, you'd prove it". Well, I've read the thread, and your plans for this summer with this boy, they're anything but mature. If you were mature you'd tell your parents about all of this. I'm sure they won't want you dating an adult while you're still a child.
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