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    Nov 12, 2006, 04:38 PM
    Help, I am in trouble!
    I am 32 years old and have never been in trouble until last summer. I took my kids to a theme park in my state and was drinking. Realizing I couldn't drive I pulled over, my mom whom was with me said she was OK to drive and started to drive home. We got pulled over and she got a DUI. They charged me with neglect of child a misdemeanor and PI they dropped the PI for a guilty plea on neglect of child. I got a 6 month suspended sentence and 1 year unsupervised probation. Last Sunday I went out of town with my boyfriend and I got picked up on a DUI, I know I have to report it to my PO but I am scared, they searched me on NCIC and I came back clean, does that mean she won't find out or should I just be honest and tell her I have a problem? I am starting AA classes this week and I meet with her on Tuesday, what should I do?
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    Nov 12, 2006, 04:43 PM
    The worst thing you can do is not tell your PO in the hopes they don't find out. Because if they DO find out you will, very likely, get your probation revoked or extended.
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    Nov 12, 2006, 04:56 PM
    What are the chances on me getting revoked, I mean if it gets revoked I would be OK if they gave me house arrest or something, but jail time scares me. I honestly have realized that I have a problem and I need to fix myself for my kids, my kids need me and I really need them. The last thing they need is a mom who is a drunk and keeps ending up in jail. I have been told that PO's like to help more than punish and if she thinks I am sincere she may give me a break, well I have never been so determined in my life. Also I am an A-B college student and am divorced so I am the only one to take care of my kids.
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    Nov 12, 2006, 05:08 PM
    Ok, first you need to realise that you have a drinking problem and that problem can and does indanger you. ( but of course most people who drink will never honestly admit it and quit until it is too late in one way or another)

    You are scared now because you believe you could go to jail so like so many you are goind to do this or that.

    Next you need to take a serious look at the boyfriend and see if he is what you really need in your life and if you actually changed your life is he what needs to be in it.

    ( OK I am preaching a lot more than I normally do but you knew that there as a problem when you got stopped the first time, and did not learn anything even though it risked your kids. So you go out and risk something that could end up at some point losing your kids at the worst.

    Ok with that said, the reason they did not see anything on the NCIC is that a suspended sentence does not show up on NCIC since what happens is if you finish your probation , the conviction is droped ( thus the suspended sentence)

    So it will be up to your probation officer to decide if they want to turn it in to revoke your probation, if so, you will go back to a hearing where your original sentence will be reviewed. They can sentence you now if they do, which means it will now show up on your record, they can do all sorts of things. Most likely if you convinice your PO that you are working on it, they will give you a chance,

    If she really believes you, she will most likely help you, if she thinks you are merely telling the lies that so many criminals and drunks do when they are caught, the PO may decide that the court needs to get your attention a little stronger.

    So honestly you got to tell the PO, not telling them will be the fastest way to get your probation revoked, since they will most likely check your record often as part of your probation so this month or next month when they run your record as part of the paper work, they see it and most likely revoke it without even talking to you about it.
    So you need to tell them fast and not let them find it first.

    I would say best chance is they will work with you, they may start requireing tests and more reporting in, and they may put more restrictions on you. But most likely they will work with you, if you tellt hem first
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    Nov 12, 2006, 06:17 PM
    There is no way for us to gauge how your PO may react. There are too many variables we don't know.

    I will say that taking your kids to a theme park and getting drunk is a real warning. Most theme parks don't serve liquor. And I agree that you mighjt want to take a harder look at a boyfriend who would let you get into this situation.

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