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    Ravenqueen123 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 27, 2014, 10:02 PM
    Why does my friend lie and lie and then lie about her lies!!
    I've known this girl who I'm best friends with and all she does is lie. So a hare just happened to be in the field right where she was standing was tame and she sort of invisibly picked it up? A load of junk, I saw her.im just so stuck. A lie is probably going through her head now, it's stupid. Yesterday we fell out because she lied and when I said that she was lying, she lied about that! We keep having fall outs because of her lies. I need urgent help, and people tell me not to be friends with her but she's so dear as my friend! And I think it might have something to do with thinking she's small, for gods sake, she's ten and 128cm! But I think she's insecure about her height and lies and says she gets bullied! No one is ever mean to her about her size! And she's so not careful about her speech, either. Tall people are mean, so you're mean is no excuse, and it's horrible to listen to this pathetic trash. And people always ask me why I be friends with her, but she's such a good one!
    Please help! I'm only ten and she's one of two of my only friends!
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    Jun 28, 2014, 01:01 AM
    Where there is a lie, there is no friendship! In fact friendship itself is a lie in that kind of relationship! I hope u get that! U just need to be careful!
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    Jun 28, 2014, 03:16 AM
    People who lie all the time are usually trying to cover up very intense insecurity. Why she is so insecure at age 10, who knows, but it might be because of the way her parents treat her, or maybe an older sibling... you know more about than we do! You tell us where you think it comes from.
    Once you decide someone is a good friend, despite their problems and faults, you need to accept who they are. You can try some gentle persuasion, but it may not work, especially right away. Give her a hug and tell her that you are her good friend and she doesn't have to lie to you, if she would like to try being truthful.
    And when she lies about something stupid like the hare in the field, just laugh it off. For serious lies that might hurt someone, talk to her when you are alone. Again, be gentle. Tell her that lying isn't freedom; it's a trap, because there will always be someone who will know.
    When a small child first figures out how to lie, he or she will test it. Parents who make a big deal about it and get all upset and punish the child are not going about it the right way. Maybe that's what happened to her several years ago. We all lie in little ways, so be able to forgive her (as you are doing), but slowly show her that she doesn't have to.
    Consider it your 'job' as a good person!
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    Jun 28, 2014, 04:33 AM
    Take a look at politics. You will see that there a people that are pathological liars. They would rather lie when the truth will serve them better. Let your friend run for office so you can benefit when she backstabs you.
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    Jun 28, 2014, 07:21 AM
    Does not sound like any real friendship, if they are lying all the time, and you are always having a falling out.

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