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    Asked Jun 9, 2012, 08:33 PM 18 Answers
    Me and my girfriend want to have sex. She's in 6 grade and I am in 7 grade. I asked if she would have sex with me and she said OK but she said she's scared because her parents could find out. How can I just tell her to do it and stop worrying? We have been going out for a long time she shouldn't be scared and she's getting on my nerves!!

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    Jun 9, 2012, 09:57 PM
    You both are entirely too young to be having sex. WAY too young.

    Are you prepared to possibly be a father? Is she prepared to possibly be a mother? What are your plans for birth control? Do you have a full time job yet where you can support a family if she gets pregnant?

    Why don't you both just wait until you're older? There's no hurry.

    And by the way... Nobody here is going to tell you how to get her to have sex with you. This is absolutely ridiculous and I hope she remains scared. She should be and so should you.

    As an added thought... you're not a very good boyfriend if you're pressuring her into having sex even though she isn't ready yet. Looks like all you care about is yourself and not her.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 12:29 AM
    Both of you are YOUNG you shouldn't pressure her into having sex if she's not ready. She might say she's ready but she probably says that so u won't leave her. U both should wait. The right time will come.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 12:14 PM
    I know she wants too she's just scared, I'm not forcing her to do anything what? I've seen her naked before. She's get dressed in front of me sometimes so don't say I'm not a good boyfriend cause you don't know anything. I just asked how can I get her to calm down, and I told her its not that big of a deal quit worrying
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    Jun 10, 2012, 12:21 PM
    Well honestly she's not going to quit worrying. She's just not ready for that. I don't think there's anything u can tell her to make her calm down.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 12:26 PM


    Just explain that she is on birth control pills ( she is isn't she) explain that you will be using condoms, ( you bought some at the drug store correct)

    Explain to her that you have plenty of money in the bank and will pay for all the of costs of paying for the baby.

    Show that you have a great job and she has nothing to worry about.

    *** So, stop your silly stupid request, she has a right to be scared and you are just too young to understand the truth, I hope she tells her dad so that he can explain it to you properly.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 12:43 PM


    Quote Originally Posted by coolguy12 View Post
    i know she wants too shes just scared, im not forcing her to do anything wtf? i've seen her naked before. she's get dressed in front of me sometimes so dont say im not a good bf cause you dont know anything. i just asked how can i get her to calm down, and i told her its not that big of a deal quit worrying
    Excuse me? You are what, 12? She is 11? You don't have a Clue! You are too young to even be dating, let alone having sex.

    Yes this is a big deal. Don't you understand that sex means babies. No one should be engaging in sexual intercourse until they are physically, financially and emotionally prepared to have a child. She SHOULD be scared. Not only of her parents finding out, but of becoming pregnant.

    Yeah you are not a good boyfriend. A good boyfriend wouldn't try to pressure his girlfriend into doing something she's uncomfortable with. I'll bet you pressured her into letting you watch her dress. She probably did so to please you because she thinks she might lose you. That is an indication of her emotional immaturity.

    And this whole question shows YOUR immaturity. But this is very easily solved. Ask her parents if it would be OK. If they approve then your girlfriend will stop worrying.

    As to your going out a "long time" what do you call a long time? At your age, it can't be a long time. The fact is you are playing at adult behaviors WAY before you are ready.

    And the last point, is would you like to go to jail? Depending on where you live it is probably illegal for her to have sex.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 01:46 PM
    OK First off all me and my girl been going out for 4 months. We are almost teens and we can do what we want and NO! I Didn't make my girl undress in front of me. She likes doing it cause she said she feels sexy when she gets dressed in front of me. And she is sexy, that's for sure! So stop assuming!! Her best friend had sex with her own boyfriend so she wants to do it to me because her best friend said it feels great. But my girl is a virgin so its OK to be scared and she is thinking about getting pills. She wants to have sex at a party or somewhere so her parents don't know. She says she just feels bad having sex behind her parent back but she really likes me and wants to do it no matter what they say.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 01:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by coolguy12 View Post
    OK First off all me and my girl been going out for 4 months. we are almost teens and we can do what we want and NO! I DIDNT make my girl undress in front of me. she likes doing it cause she said she feels sexy when she gets dressed in front of me. and she is sexy, thats for sure! so stop assuming !!! her bestfriend had sex with her own bf so she wants to do it to me because her bestfriend said it feels great. but my girl is a virgin so its ok to be scared and she is thinking bout getting pills. she wants to have sex at a party or somewhere so her parents dont know. she says she just feels bad having sex behind her parent back but she really likes me and wants to do it no matter what they say.
    Do you know anything about the law? You're both under the age of consent.

    The fact that you said that she's starting to get on your nerves, really says it all. You are pressuring her, and you put it in writing on a world wide site.

    You've been dating all of 4 months? Wow! That's forever (sarcasm). Come back when you've been together for 4 years. Actually, make it 10, because in four years you'll still be under the age of consent.

    You're both children, which is why you posted this question in the children forum. Stop trying to act like an adult. You can't handle the consequences of those actions.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 01:58 PM


    Children someone needs to take him out behind the wood shed and teach him a thing or to
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    Jun 10, 2012, 02:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    Children someone needs to take him out behind the wood shed and teach him a thing or to

    I love that he thinks he's a coolguy. That's the best part of this!

    I think he should man up and ask her parents for their permission/consent.

    What does "dating" involve when you're 12? You can't see most movies, you can't drive, you can't drink. Oh, maybe you hang out at the school gym, surrounded by jock straps.

    The truly sad part is that some 6th grader actually is considering having sex with someone who posts this question on a public board. Brings us to the topic of how to raise female children to have more self respect, a better sense of self worth.

    I note there is no private place to have sex but apparently there is private space to strip.

    Is school out already?
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    Jun 10, 2012, 02:12 PM
    Ok well guess what? I don't really give a damn about the age of constent. My girl and me are going to do it anyway so yeah. And so what if she wants to please me? She is supposed to I'm her boyfriend duh!! We aren't children WE ARE ALMOST TEENS. She tells me she wants to be with me forever. Lol she has a nice body.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 02:13 PM
    Time to close -

    This "almost teen" is frothing at the mouth, just like every other child.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 02:14 PM
    Sorry, I don't see how yelling at this kid, talking down to, and getting angry, is going to help him with his problem.


    Cool-guy, Have you talked to the school counselor about this? If you feel grown up enough for sex, then perhaps you feel grown up enough for taking your girl friend with you to the school counselor, and discussing it. The counselor can give you the facts, and the information. Perhaps set your girlfriends mind at ease about the physical act, but also warn you about the possible dangers and repercussions. The school counselor can make sure you have access to condoms and STD testing.

    We cannot force you not to have sex.
    All we can do is make sure you are BOTH prepared for the possible consequences of these actions.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 02:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by coolguy12 View Post
    we are almost teens and we can do what we want
    No you can't do what you want. Until you are adults (and you are far from that) you can only do what your parents allow you to do. And you can get in a lot of trouble doing things that are against the law.

    Quote Originally Posted by coolguy12 View Post
    she feels sexy when she gets dressed in front of me. and she is sexy, thats for sure!
    You don't know how disgusting that sounds, that an 11 yr old would even want to feel sexy.

    Quote Originally Posted by coolguy12 View Post
    she wants to have sex at a party or somewhere so her parents dont know. she says she just feels bad having sex behind her parent back.
    So, she's willing to do it at a party where other people will find out and then she will get a reputation as a slut. But then maybe she is one, if she likes undressing in front of boys.

    Again, you don't have a clue. You are an immature child thinking with your genitals and not your brain. Unfortunately there is probably nothing we can say that will convince you of how immature and dumb you are being.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 02:25 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by coolguy12 View Post
    Ok well guess what?? i dont really give a damn about the age of constent. my girl and me are gonna do it anyway so yeah. and so what if she wants to please me? she is supposed to im her bf duh!!! we arent children WE ARE ALMOST TEENS. she tells me she wants to be with me forever. lol she has a nice body.
    So you don't give a damn that you may be violating the law which can land you in jail. I have news for you uncoolguy, but teenagers are still children.

    And sure she thinks she wants to be with you forever, but the likelihood of that happening is extremely small. Especially if you go to jail for raping her.
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    Jun 10, 2012, 02:26 PM
    This thread was moved to CHILDREN from RELATIONSHIPS, but now its closed because the young fool has no need for common sense advice. So he learns the hard way! Sad, but enough of this brat!
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    Jun 10, 2012, 03:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by coolguy12 View Post
    theres noting wrong with liking your body. and yeah she wants to do it at a party. its more fun at a party. her parents like me though so im not a stupid little dumb kid!!!. your acting like im 7 years old! i'm 12. and i know im cool. i could get any girl in my school that i want but i only chose my 1 girl. shes a lucky girl.
    Who said there was anything wrong with liking your body. That doesn't mean you have to get naked. In fact, most woman are more sexy clothed than unclothed. But you would know that if you weren't a child. And you are acting a lot younger than you claim to be.

    As to being cool, you only think you are cool. You are typical of an immature know-nothing child. You think you know it all, when you know very little. As you get older, you will learn how little you know now. Hopefully you won't be taught these lessons in jail.

    Her parents don't know you. They haven't a clue that you are planning on taking advantage and abusing their daughter. God help you if they ever find out.

    And your last comment is another example of your ego and conceit. Your girl is not lucky. Not when she has a boyfriend pressuring her to have sex before either of you are ready.
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    Jun 11, 2012, 04:24 AM
    I'm going to add something here because I can. I believe this is a troll. Its summer, school is out and children are already bored. Browsing the site its not hard to see what might push our buttons.

    Its hard to believe any parents would allow their 11 yr old to have a steady boyfriend. Its even harder to believe that any parents of an 11 yr old girl would allow that boyfriend to be alone in the girl's bedroom (I can't imagine her getting dressed anywhere else). Its impossible to believe said 11 yr old would get undressed in front of said boyfriend with the door open and its impossible to believe said parents would allow them to be alone in a bedroom with the door closed. Finally, its hard to believe that parents would allow a mixed gender party at those ages without parental supervision. Again making it almost impossible for these two to be alone long enough to engage in sex.

    So I'm convinced we have a troll. Because the alternative is truly frightening.
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