Originally Posted by ginger68
He's dropped out of college, quit a good job, and spending his time hanging out. What do you think he's doing. If the 'really bad kids' he's hanging out with are just like him, some of them at least come from good homes too.
I suspect drugs and/or gang activity. What else could turn an otherwise productive individual to leave his usual life, and provide no explanations as to why. Or what he's doing for that matter, that seems a better choice to him now.
You say he 'really does not live at home anymore', what exactly does that mean. Is he allowed home for meals, laundry, a warm bed now and then? Is he totally on his own, or does he more come and go as he pleases. Do you give him money? Does he have a car?
Were there no signs whatsoever that he was doing poorly in school, or that he was unhappy attending college? What about his job- was he having trouble that you knew of, or did he just up and quit one day with no reason.
Has he been in trouble with the law before?
I just don't see so far, how this can all be a surprise. There must be some sort of history. Is there more you can offer to paint a clearer picture so that the advice you are given is based on more facts?