[ooooomydougie]

Hi I'm a 15 year old male and go to high school and been playing baseball since I was 6. Since I was in the 7th grade my mom has been treating me so badly like every time she comes home from work the house has to be spotless or she will start fussing at me and tell me she doesn't want me here at home or near her. I have to clean dishes,wash my own clothes, clean the house(sweap,mop,scrubfloors,clean bathroom, mow the lawn,wash her car, take care of the pets, and every other thing she piles on by the end of the day. And I don't get respected she is constantly telling my family that I'm a pathetic loser and that I'm not going to make it in life. I kind of struggle with my grades in school trying to get a's and b's but every now and then I get c's and she just doesn't care only when I fail she starts theatening me, I try to get help from her but she just tells me to ask my teachers and beleave me if it wasn't for my coach's and trainer I wouldn't be getting through this pain. I asked her to talk with me and she replys "theres nothing to talk about". Sometimes she talks to me for like 15 secs and says sorry and that she's going to stop. And like 2 days later she's back at it and I'm tired of it! She was mad all day today she got me up at 8:00 on a Saturday to go work at my uncles to cut his grass that was 3 feet long for no cost and all she did was ***** at me cause I ddint make my bed before I left when she was rushing me to leave.I came home and she wasn't here so I went to sleep cause I was super tired and she came home and woke me up with yelling of her and my aunt and cousin right there listening ask what happened and she rplys with "hes a pathetic loser thats what hapend" EVeryone else she talks to she acts so happy to them and if someone like my cousin or granddad or aunt asks her a favor and shel do it in a jipy. I ask her to take me to the store not for her to buy me something but for me to buy myself something with the money I make doing lawns and she says no or maybe this weekend or some lame excuse, she won't even take me to go workout and train for school. My grandma and my grandpa are the best things in my life they love me more then anything no matter what I wish she loved me.

[martinizing2]

Are you an only child?

And where is you dad?

Assuming you are an only child and your dad is not in the picture I will say this;

Your mom may be going through stressful things that you don't know about. And she may be taking it out on you just because you are the only one around.

I am sure she loves you. That is something you will understand when you have kids of your own.

You acted maturely in trying to talk to her. That is the right thing to do.
Don't give up on it. The timing may have been bad.

Right now I'd suggest talking to your grandparents about your problem, they may be of invaluable help.
My oldest grandson feels similar to the way you feel and we talk a lot about it. So I feel we have kind of bond here.
Grandparents are some of the smartest people in the world;)
Talk to yours.:D

Until I find out about the questions I asked I'll leave it here for now. But I'll be watching for your reply and maybe we can improve your homelife some.

But don't believe your mom doesn't love you, parents can be funny inhow they show it.

I'll be waiting for your answers.

[ooooomydougie]

Yea I am an only child and my moms dad and my dads mom are the best. :) Thanks for your help I feel a little better ima keep trying.

[ooooomydougie]

Dad is not in the picture.

[martinizing2]

It could be that your mom is feeling overwhelmed being a single parent.
That could lead to some resentment on her part having to do it all.
I was a single parent also and it is an enormous task and can make a person lose their perspective sometimes.

I suggest that you get ready with what you want to say to your mom.
You might even write it out , that helps get your thoughts together and gives you a chance to kind of "check out"
What you are going to say. See how it sounds as you read it.

You could even let your grandparents read it and maybe give you some ideas.
Especially her dad. He probably knows her as well or better than anyone.

Then, when she is in a really good mood, say something to the effect of "Mom, I really love you,
but I am having a tough time sometimes with how we are getting along.
There are even times I feel you don't love me." Can we please talk about this now or when you feel it would be a good time?"

I am just trying to give you a shot at how to approach this that will make it the easiest for you both.
And this is not an easy situation to deal with.
She may not realize that she is making you feel like this.

I always assumed that my kids knew I loved them more than anything, even though I didn't say it much.
I was wrong.
Assuming that your children understand what you feel is a big mistake
Assuming your parents understand how you feel does not work either.
It takes communication. As much as you get.

Let her know how you feel, in the kindest most polite manner you can, and ask her how she feels , and if there is anything you can do to help.
Ask for some time that the two of you can take on a regular basis to talk things out.

You are going about this in a mature and intelligent manner , asking for help instead of rebelling and acting out.
I admire you for that. Good job.

So talk to the grandparents,
Get a good idea of what you want to say and how you intend to say it,
Wait for what seems to be a good time,
And try your best.
I think it will help.

You are mature for your age and obviously intelligent,
I am sure you will find a way to work this out.

Keep me updated , I will be notified when you post on this thread you started
I'm sure you'll have some progress to talk about and I look forward to hearing about it.

I wish you well.

[martinizing2]

Also instead of answering with the "comment" button please use the "answer" box.
Makes it easier.