[noonoos]

Hi I split with my children's dad and I'm in a new relationship, I have been with my current partner nearly a year and my daughter has got out of control, she screams for no reason or for silly things. She has been lying at school saying I hit her and I don't, she wets the bed if we tell her off and that's when she's awake.
I put her 2 bed at 7 every night and she's up at 4 or 5 and won't go back 2 sleep. My son is good but sometimes there are things that get sorted out.
There dad doesn't bother with them at all now as I moved to get away from him, the only time he wanted them was went he wasn't busy.
Please help me as I don't no what else2 do.

Nicola

[Eileen1218]

Now that's the trouble with adults ! People have children and then decide to "split" up!
The children are ALWAYS the ones who suffer.
Evidently your daughter ( what is her age?) has not adjusted to the situation . It's devastating to children when their homes are split up and they don't have the coping skills to adjust. They are "rooted" up and moved and then have a NEW father image.
With your daughter wetting etc.. I would greatly advise you to get a counselor for her.
Then the matter of putting her to bed at 7pm and she wakes at 4-5 am... she must have had enough sleep. Try putting her to bed later... I just bet that might keep her :(sleeping for you!

[mydogquestion]

You split with your kids Dad they did not split with him. You are in a new relationship. Is he living with you? Is he acting like the Dad?How old is your daughter?
You say she wets the bed after We tell her off.Perhaps a change in the way you discplie her is needed. The man in your life should not be the one. It should be from you. Also you should seek the help of a family professinal.
You have to remember that your children can not just write off their father. Even if he is the biggest jerk in the world he is still their dad. If you are talking badly about him in front of them they will most likely act . Take a good look at how your life affects them. I would make sure you are not forcing them to accept you man.

[noonoos]

Now that's the trouble with adults ! People have children and then decide to "split" up!
The children are ALWAYS the ones who suffer.
Evidently your daughter ( what is her age?) has not adjusted to the situation . It's devastating to children when their homes are split up and they don't have the coping skills to adjust. They are "rooted" up and moved and then have a NEW father image.
With your daughter wetting etc.. I would greatly advise you to get a counselor for her.
Then the matter of putting her to bed at 7pm and she wakes at 4-5 am...she must have had enough sleep. Try putting her to bed later ....I just bet that might keep her :(sleeping for you!!

I was with there dad 4 8 yrs, it wasn't just have kids then split, he wanted his single life bk. My daughter knows that my new partner is not her dad and I don't let them call him dad either. I have put her 2 bed at 10 before and she still got up at 5.

[noonoos]

You split with your kids Dad they did not split with him. You are in a new relationship. Is he living with you? Is he acting like the Dad?How old is your daughter?
You say she wets the bed after We tell her off.Perhaps a change in the way you discplie her is needed. The man in your life should not be the one. It should be from you. Also you should seek the help of a family professinal.
You have to remember that your children can not just write off thier father. Even if he is the biggest jerk in the world he is still their dad. If you are talking badly about him in front of them they will most likely act . Take a good look at how your life affects them. I would make sure you are not forcing them to accept you man.

Iknow that it was me who split up with their dad and not them but he chose to have his single life bk. My new partner does not act like dad but is there 2 help them if and when they want or need it. I've changed the way I discplin her I used to give in to her all the time, but I don't have the money no more to give her everything she wants. I always tell her she has all the love in the world from me and she always will. And that she don't need expensive things. I don't talk bad about him in front of my kids as I no how much it hurts them. I don't expect them to write him off, I no how my life affects them andim trying to help them with that. I was with there dad for 8yrs and they see him him me and stuff like that.