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    char77 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 5, 2006, 01:20 PM
    Leaving Home
    I recently had to have my 20-year old son get his own apt. I needed to open up a room for his older brother who was coming home from prison and had to stay with me. It is myself, my fiancé and 14-year old who live there and now my older son. But my 20-year old is angry about having to move. For me and my 14 year old it was a good thing as he used to bully his younger brother. Just a lot less tension. But now he keeps coming home, he still has his key. He lays on the couch which he knows he is not supposed to do. My fiancé will not say anything to him as he doesn't think its his place to. I have asked my son not to do that. It causes tension between us. I feel torn. I love my fiancé and my son. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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    Sep 5, 2006, 02:00 PM
    Change the lock?

    And honestly I would give the older son only a short time to find his own place also. Grown children need to be living on their own.
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    Sep 5, 2006, 02:36 PM
    Your son is probably living an extremely comfortable life on your couch and has no motivation to leave home.

    If your chats are not cutting it, you'll have to get his key back and remind him he doesn't live there anymore.

    You keep saying he creates tension... If he is using physical force to "bully" his way into your house and otherwise intimidate the younger brother, I would give him one warning, and then declare him a trespasser and call the police.
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