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Mazdadude07 · Jun 23, 2009, 11:37 AM

Here's a question I've been wondering.

I separated from babies mom for few months, but been back together living together for the past month or so, here's question, is it even required for me to pay child support if I'm living with them full time then?

Fr_Chuck · Jun 23, 2009, 11:39 AM

Should not matter? You pay her, she gets the money it is there for both to spend

But yes unless you go back and change or modify the court order it is valid, if you had the kids and she did not, you would still have to pay until you get the order changed

Mazdadude07 · Jun 23, 2009, 11:44 AM

It shouldn't but when comes down to the bills, she doesn't include child support to put towards it, she just sets it aside for kids not part of helping take care of the household bills

Justwantfair · Jun 23, 2009, 11:46 AM

As a mother who has been in this situation, are you now married?

It takes sometimes many months to get a child support order in effect, if she doesn't believe that this is a permanent fix or if you owe an arrearage, she may not want to modify the order.

If you are paying through your state you are still getting credit for the child support that is paid while you are living together and the child support is still coming back to your household. But it protects her from beginning the process over and losing any arrearages should the reconciliation not go smoothly.

Justwantfair · Jun 23, 2009, 11:49 AM

Originally Posted by Mazdadude07

It shouldn't but when comes down to the bills, she doesnt include child support to put towards it, she just sets it aside for kids not part of helping take care of the household bills

Child support goes to everything including household bills, but if you children aren't going without, then why be upset that she is directing that money for the children exclusively?

Mazdadude07 · Jun 23, 2009, 11:53 AM

Its confusing, I took a paycut involantary, a 40% paycut, but haven't had the order remodified, so paychecks been very slim, because they are supposed to fix it at some point back to where supposed to be once budget for the year is done, and then pay me backpay, just been stressful in the household, as still wants so much from me when not making nearly what I used to for last two months, hopefully not much longer before they fix the sitaution

Justwantfair · Jun 23, 2009, 12:02 PM

There would not be any additional money coming into the household if the support order was dropped.
If your relationship is working, then you need to sit down together and reevaluate how you will pay all the bills, if the child support is needed for that, then that is what it should be used for.
Child support covers all living expenses inc. housing, utilities, school fees, clothing, food, etc.

stevetcg · Jun 26, 2009, 04:44 AM

You are required by law to continue paying it, even if she just hands it back to you. If you do not, she can take you to court down the road and you will owe every penny of it plus interest.

HOWEVER, you are also sharing physical custody and in most situations, child support is eliminated or at least drastically lowered. In addition, an involuntary pay cut is grounds to have CS lowered.

Get back into court and explain the situation.

talaniman · Jul 12, 2009, 12:30 PM

Keep the child support going for your kids. Why let your own confusion with females, make their life harder than what it is?

s_cianci · Jul 12, 2009, 01:59 PM

Is there a support order in place? If so, then you are bound to it until you get the court to modify it. If there is no order in place, does the mother intend to pursue one? If she does then I don't honestly know what the court would order, given that you reside with the mother. But start keeping records, whether court-ordered or not, of whatever you contribute financially for the benefit of your child. This'll be important if you eventually move out and then the mother decides to pursue a judgment for child support.