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    cheko Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 20, 2010, 07:26 AM
    how do you know when a friendship is falling apart?
    my friend and I have known each other for 16 years (its how old I am) and at the age of 12 I left to mexico and when I was coming back our van broke in a diffrnt state ( our distination Michigan) and I haven't seen him in 4 years and when I finally got the chance to speak with him. He has changed so much he has goten stuburn and hardly wants to talk nymore he has spoke to me everyonce in a while but ever since I left it seems that our friendship has been fading away I have tried to recover it but he is bieng stuburn not answering most of my messeges lately I have known his family for a long time I met him threw his mom and threw him I have met his sister from his sister to his older brother. So our friendship is really important to me but I need help I can't get ahold of him I try talking to him but no answer. Someone help me out =/. Whts going on with him?
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    Mar 20, 2010, 07:29 PM
    It's pretty much impossible to guess what has happened with him. Maybe he has just gone in a different direction, and has new friends, and new interests.

    Whatever his reason, it isn't a good idea to keep trying to get hold of him to talk to him. What that really means is putting him on the spot to explain why he has been avoiding you.

    Try not to seem so needy or pushy. He would have responded by now if he had wanted to. My opinion is give him space, let him get used to the idea that you aren't going to be contacting him, and he may just contact you instead when he's ready.
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    Mar 28, 2010, 05:30 PM

    Sometimes people change and sometimes there's something maybe you did or maybe he did. Maybe ask him if he wants to play a game or go hang out and see what he says. If he says no maybe the friendship is over...
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    Mar 28, 2010, 06:17 PM

    Sometimes people just grow apart. I thought I would be best friends with my best friend in middle school forever. Then I moved. We kept in contact for a few years, but every year a little less. Until we finally just drifted apart and stopped talking. There was no drama. She didn't do anything to me. I don't think I did anything to her. We both knew each other's families well. For a while it was hard for me because even though we were growing apart, I hadn't been growing close to anyone. So for a bit I felt very alone with no best friend. But eventually you start getting to know other people and before you know it you've got yourself some new friends. Listen to jake's advice. Take a break from contacting him. Who knows, maybe in time you'll end up back together again. Maybe not. But you never know.
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    Apr 1, 2010, 09:14 PM
    I think your friend has outgrown you. It happens. It's not anything you did it just happens. I'm sorry you are feeling hurt and confused, but my advice is stop trying to contact him. Take care and let it go. Blessings:)

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