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    Aug 29, 2015, 01:30 PM
    How can I help my brother?
    We were at a park with my family. There was me (I'm 13), my 6 year old half-brother and my mom. My mom is a very short tempered person. She gets mad at basically anything. We were at this park and so my brother was just playing around and climbing these rocks that were almost half my height and my mom of course kept yelling at him to get off in public and yes there were people everywhere staring because she yells really loudly but my brother didn't really listen and moments later he falls off a rock and starts bleeding really badly and my mom starts spanking him with her hand and saying things like "I told you not to stand on that rock" "you deserved it" and the worst one was "I'm going to slap you to death and make you die a horrible painful death" and of course he was crying from all the harsh words my mother was saying to him. Then she turned to me and said things like "don't even feel sorry for him he doesn't deserve any sympathy".

    I know that my brother was wrong by not listening to my mom in the first place for climbing and he shouldn't have done so which would've prevented his injury but I don't think my mom had the right to go tell him to die in hell (she actually said that) and those words don't only hurt him but it actually hurts me too and it makes me cry having to listen to those words. I know that we have had our sibling days as all siblings do but being an older sister since I'm almost 10 years older I want to help him I really do have sympathy for him even though my mom told me not to. So how can I help my brother get through this?

    He's 4 not 6 that was a typo
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    Aug 29, 2015, 01:49 PM
    Does she overreact like this at other times? Where is your dad?
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    Aug 31, 2015, 05:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Does she overreact like this at other times? Where is your dad?
    She does spaz a lot even in unnecessary situations but never really to this extreme. Also I have never met my dad before. My mom had me when she was 17 and she told me that my dad (her ex) dumped her before she found out she was pregnant with me so I don't even think my dad knows he has a daughter (me)

    I also don't have a step dad either my mom used to be married but divorced a few years ago
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    Aug 31, 2015, 05:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Diva_girl1 View Post
    She does spaz a lot even in unnecessary situations but never really to this extreme. Also I have never met my dad before. My mom had me when she was 17 and she told me that my dad (her ex) dumped her before she found out she was pregnant with me so I don't even think my dad knows he has a daughter (me)

    I also don't have a step dad either my mom used to be married but divorced a few years ago
    She's missing out on child support. Where is your brother's dad?
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    Aug 31, 2015, 05:58 PM
    She probably has a LOT of stress raising both of you and making ends meet, its hard for two parents...but when you have only one that has to do everything, sometimes it seems impossible... and your brother being so willful and disrespectful by ignoring her pushes her beyond what she can take.

    Most kids have no idea what parents have to worry about... and the more they have to worry the less patience they will have.

    You don't see it now... but when you are older you will. Parents are human... and they are imperfect and do have limits to our patience. And some days it will be less that others.

    Actually if she didn't care for and love you both....she wouldn't get as upset and angry at times like that.
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    Sep 1, 2015, 09:30 AM
    You could help your mom by keeping your brother out of trouble, and help him behave, so he doesn't have to spaz.

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