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    Jan 2, 2016, 06:17 PM
    I caught my 8 yr old being curious with another 8 yr old boy
    I caught my 8 yr old son and his 8 yr old friend with their pants down being curious. Should I punish? Should I inform the other family?
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    Jan 2, 2016, 06:39 PM
    What did you do and/or say to them when you caught them? Is the friend a boy or a girl?
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    Jan 2, 2016, 07:17 PM
    Two Boys
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    Jan 2, 2016, 07:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by catonsville View Post
    Two Boys
    How do you know?
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    Jan 2, 2016, 07:23 PM
    I read it at the Subject and the op's comment on it.
    Help! I caught my 8 yr old being curious with another 8 yr old boy and
    I caught my 8 yr old son and his 8 yr old friend.

    Reason for the bold print is I copied the Subject and it and the Op's comment came out bold/
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    Jan 2, 2016, 07:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by catonsville View Post
    I read it at the Subject and the op's comment on it.
    Help! I caught my 8 yr old being curious with another 8 yr old boy and
    I caught my 8 yr old son and his 8 yr old friend.

    Reason for the bold print is I copied the Subject and it and the Op's comment came out bold/
    Aaaaaaah, it's in the title. Maybe they were comparing body parts as especially boys tend to do?
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    Jan 2, 2016, 07:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Aaaaaaah, it's in the title. Maybe they were comparing body parts as especially boys tend to do?
    I would like to amend your comment to make that "Little Boys" LOL
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    Jan 3, 2016, 01:45 AM
    Back on subject.

    This is normal behavior. Kids are naturally curious about their own bodies, and the bodies of others, especially little boys.

    I wouldn't punish, that would create a negative body image, and that's not something you want. I would sit down and talk to your son about privacy, about respecting his body, and that certain things aren't appropriate behavior. Tell him in a calm rational way, no shaming, no judgement.

    I would tell the other parents, so they can also have a talk with their son.
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    Jan 3, 2016, 05:32 AM
    There is nothing to punish, or freak out about, just a teachable moment. More important is HOW you tell his friends parents about this. Do either of the boys have siblings? Just because you are just finding out about their curiosity doesn't mean this is their first time.

    You may find that you have a bit of catching up to do about your 8 year old.
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    Jan 21, 2016, 10:51 PM
    Curiousity at the age of 3 to 5 would be no big deal to handle and explain , though at 8 I would take caution, though yea it's nothing to punish them over.

    Only child do have bigger Curiousity than those with Sister or Brother.

    Just teach them about themselves without going too much into the Birds and the Bees ( Sex ).
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    Jan 22, 2016, 05:57 PM
    There's no need to tell other family member is not the big of a deal and why would you punish him stop being over dramatic
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    Jan 23, 2016, 06:52 AM
    I would tell your son, that nobody should be allowed to touch/look at/investigate his private parts, nor should he touch anybody elses'.

    If he is curious about body parts, get him a book, and read it with him, such as 'Our Bodies, Ourselves'. At 8 he should (already) know very clearly, that private parts are private.

    I would as well inform the other parent, so that she/he too, can inform their son, that touching other people's body parts is not appropriate behavior.

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