***. Give me some advice on what else I can do aside from talking to his parents which it seems to me does not really believe what I said... there is no way a four year old girl would know all the details about everything that my nephew did to her... *** help me... it feels like my whole world just fell apart.

I presume then that you talked to this boy's parents, they are not addressing or acknowledging the sexual assault, and they do not believe you, or that it happened.

If you are certain, call the police. This is a criminal act. I would also contact CPS if you are in the States, and CAS if you are in Canada.

While this may be totally devastating to you, it is imperative that the assault be reported, and reported quickly. There really isn't a question whether to do so. I would then follow the advice of professionals with their recommendations for therapy, assistance and guidance.

An investigation of this boy may prove that your daughter was a victim more than once, and that there are other victims as well. He has a very serious problem, that if his parents are unwilling to address, the authorities will. For the sake of your own daughter, as well as possible future victims, reporting him is imperative.

While I can understand you are devastated, what parent wouldn't be, the important thing here is to get the help you need in dealing with this crime. To let it go, or forget about it, won't help anybody.

I'm going to disagree here with Jake because I don't think we have enough details to advise involving the police. We don't know what the nephew did, how much of a sexual assault it was.

Nor do I suggest posting those details here. My suggestion, if the parents refuse to believe it, is to seek counseling for your daughter. Have her talk to a professional therapist who can do two things. First, determine what really happened. I know you think your daughter couldn't know such details, but, unfortunately, we live in a world where this type of info is too readily available. Second, the therapist, if they believe a criminal act occurred, will be required to report it. And that also takes some of the heat off you since you were just seeking help for your daughter. Actually, there is a third thing the therapist can do and that's help YOU deal with it. I'm sure you are feeling guilt at not protecting your daughter and that's something you need to deal with.

Jake have to spread it. I absolutely agree.

Hayd, please listen to Jake.

The same thing happened to someone very close to me. If you are in the U.S. call the police and report it. They will put you in touch with CPS. Allow the authorities to give you direction on how to proceed and follow their advice. I know you don't want to create problems within your family but you need put aside your family's anger with you and whatever conflicts may come. You need to do everything you can do to help your daughter. Her mental health and your relationship with her as she ages will hinge on how you proceed now. Please, do not put off contacting the authorities any longer.

Scott, I didn't see your response before I posted. Just as an FYI, the police will investigate first prior to contacting the family. They will put her in touch with CPS, who will do exactly what you are suggesting should happen. They will have a child psychologist speak with her and determine if anything occurred. The problem that comes into play is a legal one. I didn't want to scare the OP by stating this earlier but when a mother does not report a suspected incident, and it is found something did occur, the mother's custody of her child is placed in jeopardy. This did happen with my friend.

I still do not agree with getting police or even CPS involved based on what little we know. She could be putting the nephew's future in jeopardy and opening herself to a law suit by doing so. ANY investigation of such charges is likely to get out. The investigators will have to ask questions that will make their investigation obvious.

Clearly, however, the OP NEEDS to take some action. By going to a private therapist first she can better determine what actually occurred and then the therapist can advise how to proceed or report it themselves.

Granted I don't know where she lives and I can only go by what happened to my friend. This happened in NY state. When there is another child involved, by law, the police have to keep it quiet and do not investigate the other child until AFTER the first child has gone through the psych interview process and there is enough evidence to support a case. Yes, we don't know the extent of the sexual abuse here but based upon what the mother knows of her 4 year old's knowledge about sex and what the child said to her, Mom appears to be convinced it happened. From what we were told, whenever a child tells an adult that abuse has occurred, the adult is required by law to report it and let the authorities sort it out.

I do understand what you are saying but aside from the time delay due to how long it may take the mother to find a qualified professional who can meet with the child and determine abuse might have occurred, for a 4 year old to have to be subjected to two different interview processes isn't good for the child. We were told in these situations, time is of the essence to ensure no one was coaching the child.

I would report it myself,

Either the police or a doctor, depending on the nature of the assault and the way things work where you live. I would think either would be calling on the other as the next step anyway.

Either way please tell someone appropriate.

My six-year-old daughter was sexually assulted by the 13-year-old boy across the street. I can tell you one thing... The police, nor SRS, will take this seriously. I understand the pain that you are feeling, because I'm feeling it right now and it's torn my whole world apart.

I advise you to play the role of the victem, though. Saying this does not mean cry whenever you want to or tell everyone how broken you truly feel. Smother those feelings down in both public eye and in front of your daughter. Let her know how sweet, innocent, beautiful, smart, and kind you know her to be; tell her that she is one of the single most bravest people you've ever had the honer to meet and the pride you feel in being her mother has only grown! Let her know she did everything she did everything right and that boy did everything wrong.

If she's frightened about retaliation then inform her that you don't give a damn about anything or anyone else other than her. This will let her know that you will never allow anything bad to happen and that her house can be her own safe heaven.

Let the little things go, express your own feelings more (you hurt mommy's feelings when you tell me I'm mean). Tell her mommy will listen to anything you want to say and that no matter what, even if she has to tell you a bad word, she will not get into trouble.

If some tears fall then explain that mommy is only hurting a bit and that it's okay to cry when you're hurt.

Try to save your major pain sessions for when she's in bed, take a long shower and cry your heart out.

My heart is with you, I'm feeling your pain; but councling is needed for both of you so try to set up sessions, if you're lower income then I'm sure a Guidance Center will put you on a sliding scale.

I'm rooting for you, one hurting and betrayed mother to another.